My husband is making me wait to have kids. How do I get him to understand where I'm coming from?

I am 21 and I want a baby so badly. My husband says he wants to wait until we are 28 to start ttc. I don't think it's fair to make me wait so long to have children. I have PCOS and I think we should get the ball rolling because who knows how many miscarriges we might have and how hard it will be to conceive. What should I do?My husband is making me wait to have kids. How do I get him to understand where I'm coming from?
I can't imagine why he would want to wait. Most of the fun of having kids is struggling to get by on a day to day basis. Why wait seven years to get in a secure financial situation?My husband is making me wait to have kids. How do I get him to understand where I'm coming from?
How old is he? And I do understand you wanting to have children,but you are young and are able to wait. Now before you get down on me here. I think it's best you compromise with him. And realize that he may want to wait seven years now,but may change his mind two or three years down the road. So don't press this too much or it may take longer for him to warm up to the idea. So don't worry it will happen for you,maybe just not right now. Until then start saving up a bit of money every month in preparation for when you do decide to ttc.
In my opinion and as being a mom of 2 myself. And had my 1st one just before turning 20. I must say this has to be a joint decision. I am still with my husband and we have a great relationship 10 yrs later. But he was not ready for kids. Yes we made it work and he is a good man but if your hubby doesnt want kids right now, I am sure he has a reason. Maybe he wants to be more secure financially, own a home, experience life a little and then have kids. All of these things are good to do before baby. You are very young and have many many years to have kids. Even w/ PCOS you can get preggo regardless of whether you are 21 or 31
i think he has a point, you're still really young, so enjoy you're life.


try raising a pet as an adult, you'll see it's a lot more difficult than having one as a child, and can teach you some thigs.


lol- sorry if this is sounding a bit like marley and me ( movie)
This is all too familiar to me, I was exactly the same as you! I was busting to have children. I always wanted to have children young.





In saying that I did end up as I started to get older, enjoy the time I had together with just my husband. We went on an overseas holiday and then all my friends started having children and seeing them and how their lives changed made me realise that we had done the right thing by waiting. All our friends then became very envious of our lives.





You never get that time back when your young and married to just do what you want when you want and just be together.





I now have a 14 month old daughter and I will be 30 this year and I couldn't be happier. I know you were looking here for support but I am so glad that I waited.


We were both ready, we bought a house and became more finacilly stable and set ourselves up, we saved money for a year so I could stay home for as long as I needed or wanted and Im still not back at work.





My advise to you is to really just enjoy the company of your husband, don't rush into having children too early because although being a mother is the best thing that's ever happened to me, it does change things and forcing your husband into it before he is ready, he may resent you or the baby. You both need to be ready and in the scheme of your life, waiting a few more years in comparison to how long you raise your children, it really isn't a very long time.





With your PCOS, it may take a little longer than average but it might not either, it will still happen for you when its the right time..





I wish you all the best though in whatever happens and good luck :)