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When will the air force move me to my husband after hes done with tech school?
My husband is in tech school in little rock right now. He has 4 more weeks and then he is done and he begins his job also in little rock.
Im 28 weeks pregnant and i wanna know if the air force pays to move me and when will they move me?When will the air force move me to my husband after hes done with tech school?
When he reports to his base, which he is already there anyway. Pretty much he will be responsible. He has to call TMO (the movers) and set up a date with them, then it just goes from there. That's the short and sweet version. So it kind of depends on him. TMO usually likes you to call one to two weeks before you plan on moving. Honestly, it shouldn't take too long. Good luck!When will the air force move me to my husband after hes done with tech school?
Since you're married to him, you can move right away, but the cost may not be included until you get there, usually its up on you for the trip then you show up to the TMO and show all the expenses of the trip (gas, hotel, ticket for airport or uhaul) and they should reimburse it.
Yes and you have a choice sorta. The AF will subsidize you cost and the timing I believe you have a choice since you prego. They give you room but not much.
First move is on you!
Im 28 weeks pregnant and i wanna know if the air force pays to move me and when will they move me?When will the air force move me to my husband after hes done with tech school?
When he reports to his base, which he is already there anyway. Pretty much he will be responsible. He has to call TMO (the movers) and set up a date with them, then it just goes from there. That's the short and sweet version. So it kind of depends on him. TMO usually likes you to call one to two weeks before you plan on moving. Honestly, it shouldn't take too long. Good luck!When will the air force move me to my husband after hes done with tech school?
Since you're married to him, you can move right away, but the cost may not be included until you get there, usually its up on you for the trip then you show up to the TMO and show all the expenses of the trip (gas, hotel, ticket for airport or uhaul) and they should reimburse it.
Yes and you have a choice sorta. The AF will subsidize you cost and the timing I believe you have a choice since you prego. They give you room but not much.
First move is on you!
How do I file taxes when I worked and husband rcvd workers comp all year? Can I claim him as a dependent? ?
He received benefits Jan-Aug, until they stopped him. He did not work for the entire year. I am a student but receive grants and loans. We have a child and at some point I paid for child care. We rent and pay electric for heat. How do I file my taxes this year to get the most return?How do I file taxes when I worked and husband rcvd workers comp all year? Can I claim him as a dependent? ?
So, did either one of you have a W-2 at all?
If you had zero other income, the only remaining question is whether your grants covered your tuition or if any of the grant money was used for living expenses (which makes it taxable).
If your income from W-2s is $0 and your taxable grant money is less than $17,900, you don't have a filing requirement and wouldn't get a refund anyway....
So, did either one of you have a W-2 at all?
If you had zero other income, the only remaining question is whether your grants covered your tuition or if any of the grant money was used for living expenses (which makes it taxable).
If your income from W-2s is $0 and your taxable grant money is less than $17,900, you don't have a filing requirement and wouldn't get a refund anyway....
What is the law regarding my landlord or her husband opening my mail?
I have received one open credit statement and one opened net flix dvd. I also don't get mail the day it comes. What laws protect me?What is the law regarding my landlord or her husband opening my mail?
Federal Crime
Suggest you get separate mailbox and lock it
Be proactiveWhat is the law regarding my landlord or her husband opening my mail?
As I understand it, it is a federal law that protects your mail, mailbox and so forth. When someone was taking my mail, talking to the post office was like talking to the wall. They provided no help nor did the police. You have to be able to prove it before you even go there. Set up a little camera so that you have a film of them taking your mail. Where it goes from there. . .good luck. My little theives turned out to be the local kids playing post office and they were delivering my mail all around. I had to catch them myself and explain to them the importance of not taking my mail. That was a relief rather than someone trying identity theft. Best ideas are a lock box or post office box. Both a pain but that stops that. And if they are opening your mail, a po box will have you ready to move and move you want to do.
They shouldn't open your mail, but don't accuse them of doing so, unless you have proof. Landlords are not the evil things alot of people like to think. Landlording is a tough business, and most landlords care about their tenants.
Talk to your landlord about your problem. Give him a chance.
Take the advice of the rest of the posters. You can also think about getting a P.O. Box since only you will have the key for it. This way, you can be assured that you and only you have access to your mail. You pay one fee for an entire year, but this differs on the size of the box.
Speak to an attorney right away. They are tampering with the mail, and that is a federal crime. Anything that comes in under your name, is YOUR property, not theirs. They have no right to see what your credit card bills are, or what you get through the postal system.
you might want to put a hold on your mail at the post office. To do this you fill out a yellow card to tell them how long to hold the mail sent to your address. then you go back and pick it up at the post office.
You can call the Post Master to report it if someone is opening or taking your mail.
They can not do that. I would talk to your local post office and find out what you can do.
it's illegal for anyone to open mail addressed specifically to you.
The link to the law is below.
Federal Crime
Suggest you get separate mailbox and lock it
Be proactiveWhat is the law regarding my landlord or her husband opening my mail?
As I understand it, it is a federal law that protects your mail, mailbox and so forth. When someone was taking my mail, talking to the post office was like talking to the wall. They provided no help nor did the police. You have to be able to prove it before you even go there. Set up a little camera so that you have a film of them taking your mail. Where it goes from there. . .good luck. My little theives turned out to be the local kids playing post office and they were delivering my mail all around. I had to catch them myself and explain to them the importance of not taking my mail. That was a relief rather than someone trying identity theft. Best ideas are a lock box or post office box. Both a pain but that stops that. And if they are opening your mail, a po box will have you ready to move and move you want to do.
They shouldn't open your mail, but don't accuse them of doing so, unless you have proof. Landlords are not the evil things alot of people like to think. Landlording is a tough business, and most landlords care about their tenants.
Talk to your landlord about your problem. Give him a chance.
Take the advice of the rest of the posters. You can also think about getting a P.O. Box since only you will have the key for it. This way, you can be assured that you and only you have access to your mail. You pay one fee for an entire year, but this differs on the size of the box.
Speak to an attorney right away. They are tampering with the mail, and that is a federal crime. Anything that comes in under your name, is YOUR property, not theirs. They have no right to see what your credit card bills are, or what you get through the postal system.
you might want to put a hold on your mail at the post office. To do this you fill out a yellow card to tell them how long to hold the mail sent to your address. then you go back and pick it up at the post office.
You can call the Post Master to report it if someone is opening or taking your mail.
They can not do that. I would talk to your local post office and find out what you can do.
it's illegal for anyone to open mail addressed specifically to you.
The link to the law is below.
What are some filling foods I can prepare my husband to take for lunch?
So I am the one in our house who decides what groceries we buy and I prepare all the meals (it's fair I don't wash any dishes). My husband goes to work with his lunch and complains that he's still hungry all the time. He ends up buying over priced junk and it a. doesn't fill him long and b. wastes our money. What are some rather filling foods/ meals he could take with him to work?What are some filling foods I can prepare my husband to take for lunch?
Tuna pasta (cold) with mayo, onion, sweetcorn and some bread x YUMWhat are some filling foods I can prepare my husband to take for lunch?
i usually take home made smoothies to work quite often. (i put em' in a thermos) i fill them up with about 90% fruit and a splash of milk. goes great with a sandwich or something else that's generally easy to make. keeps me full for a good couple hours!
make him a big sub, send a bag of chips, and maybe some cookies. or u could get hot pockets, have that with chips. tv dinners .. pretty much anything u think will fill him, why dont u ask him what he would like
I like to make a variety of sandwiches that I can munch on several times per day.
Add some fruit, muesli bars, biscuits and yogurt.
Pasta is very filling. You can also try egg and ham mayo sandwiches
Tuna pasta (cold) with mayo, onion, sweetcorn and some bread x YUMWhat are some filling foods I can prepare my husband to take for lunch?
i usually take home made smoothies to work quite often. (i put em' in a thermos) i fill them up with about 90% fruit and a splash of milk. goes great with a sandwich or something else that's generally easy to make. keeps me full for a good couple hours!
make him a big sub, send a bag of chips, and maybe some cookies. or u could get hot pockets, have that with chips. tv dinners .. pretty much anything u think will fill him, why dont u ask him what he would like
I like to make a variety of sandwiches that I can munch on several times per day.
Add some fruit, muesli bars, biscuits and yogurt.
Pasta is very filling. You can also try egg and ham mayo sandwiches
My estranged husband stole and cashed a check from my mailbox from my insurance company. Isn't that illegal?
I just discovered that my estranged husband stole and cashed a check for $1,152.80 from my mailbox last November that Blue Cross Blue Shield mailed directly to me instead of mailing it to my Health Care Provider for services rendered in August, 2008. When I confronted him yesterday, he admitted that he did cash the check. What legal recourse do I have?My estranged husband stole and cashed a check from my mailbox from my insurance company. Isn't that illegal?
My advice call BCBS and explain that you never received the check and that you believe it was stolen, they will check their records and send you a copy of the check. Once you see the copy of the cashed check, you will need to call them again and tell them it is not your signature. BCBS will then send you an Affidavit form that you will need to fill out which certifies that you did not cash the check--the form will probably have to be notarized. Once you submit this form, BCBS will send you another check replacing the $1,152.80. They will take care of investigating who cashed the check and taking whatever legal steps are necessary to recover their money. This may or may not include referring the person who illegally cashed the check to the authorities. You do not need to call the police or do any of these other things. BCBS will take care of doing this only if they deem it necessary.
I have seen this happen a few times in my practice (i.e. where different family members helped themselves to insurance company checks). In the last few cases, the insurance company collected the funds back from the party who took them and did not refer it to the authorities.
I hope this helps. Good Luck!My estranged husband stole and cashed a check from my mailbox from my insurance company. Isn't that illegal?
ok, you will need to contact BCBS and ask that they send copy of the check to you; front and back; they issued, so will have copy.
also; contact the provider and explained what happened; by now, should be getting mail/phone calls on payment; they may hold off pestering you pending resolution.
file a police report; need this;
question who cashed check? since this check issued to you personally, you are female and he is a male, so did he have a female cash the check for him? most places ask for photo id;
also; why would BCBS mail you a check to pay for services to a provider? why didn't they pay them direct???? that does not make sense.
contact a lawyer for legal advice;
may have a claim for;
1; your husband or someone else who helped cashed check
2; the place where the check was cashed
3; BCBS; issued check to you personally vs the provider direct?
good luck
Yes, it is illegal to steal mail.
Yes, it is illegal to cash a check that is payable to someone else.
Option 1:
Have him reimburse you.
Option 2:
Tell Blue Cross Blue Shield that you did not cash or deposit this check and believe that it may have been stolen. They will check their records and find that it was cashed. Ask them for a copy of the canceled check. When you receive it, tell them that the endorsement signature on the back of the check is not yours and that they should demand restitution from the bank that honored the check with that endorsement and should then issue a new check to you. This will take awhile. Do not hold your breathe.
Option 3:
Get divorced. Ask the divorce court to make him pay you $1152.80, plus whatever alimony or child support you would otherwise receive.
Option 4:
Notify the United States postal inspection service and the police. Have him arrested.
You need to sue him in small claims court. There is no lawyer necessary, and you need to be able to prove he actually stole and cashed the check. You can press charges against him first for theft if you wish, but don't expect that to go anywhere...it's a small amount of money for most police departments to investigate.
You need more than ';your word against his,'; for evidence. Get a copy of the check and have a handwriting expert attest to the validity of the endorsement.
go to the police and make a report then get a copy of the check from the bank, you will need copies of both front and back. I would also go to the place where he cashed the check and find out why they cashed it since it was made out to you! they should never cash checks that are made out to someone else. you should find out if you can sue them!
Call the police department and report it. It is illegal to cash someone else's check. Call the insurance company and tell them you know who cashed the check illegally and you want them to reissue it.
This was your money and not his. Don't let someone get away with this theft.
Yes, it's illegal.
Your first step, is to notify the police, and file charges against him. Once he is prosecuted, then you can ask BCBS to reissue the check, and THEY will take over prosecution.
If the check was made out to you, it certainly is. You should not only notify the local police but also the Postal Service inspector.
tell him to pay up or you will call the cops. He also owes any late fees that might have accrued
Tell him he needs to give you the money back or he's going to jail!maybelline matte lipstick
My advice call BCBS and explain that you never received the check and that you believe it was stolen, they will check their records and send you a copy of the check. Once you see the copy of the cashed check, you will need to call them again and tell them it is not your signature. BCBS will then send you an Affidavit form that you will need to fill out which certifies that you did not cash the check--the form will probably have to be notarized. Once you submit this form, BCBS will send you another check replacing the $1,152.80. They will take care of investigating who cashed the check and taking whatever legal steps are necessary to recover their money. This may or may not include referring the person who illegally cashed the check to the authorities. You do not need to call the police or do any of these other things. BCBS will take care of doing this only if they deem it necessary.
I have seen this happen a few times in my practice (i.e. where different family members helped themselves to insurance company checks). In the last few cases, the insurance company collected the funds back from the party who took them and did not refer it to the authorities.
I hope this helps. Good Luck!My estranged husband stole and cashed a check from my mailbox from my insurance company. Isn't that illegal?
ok, you will need to contact BCBS and ask that they send copy of the check to you; front and back; they issued, so will have copy.
also; contact the provider and explained what happened; by now, should be getting mail/phone calls on payment; they may hold off pestering you pending resolution.
file a police report; need this;
question who cashed check? since this check issued to you personally, you are female and he is a male, so did he have a female cash the check for him? most places ask for photo id;
also; why would BCBS mail you a check to pay for services to a provider? why didn't they pay them direct???? that does not make sense.
contact a lawyer for legal advice;
may have a claim for;
1; your husband or someone else who helped cashed check
2; the place where the check was cashed
3; BCBS; issued check to you personally vs the provider direct?
good luck
Yes, it is illegal to steal mail.
Yes, it is illegal to cash a check that is payable to someone else.
Option 1:
Have him reimburse you.
Option 2:
Tell Blue Cross Blue Shield that you did not cash or deposit this check and believe that it may have been stolen. They will check their records and find that it was cashed. Ask them for a copy of the canceled check. When you receive it, tell them that the endorsement signature on the back of the check is not yours and that they should demand restitution from the bank that honored the check with that endorsement and should then issue a new check to you. This will take awhile. Do not hold your breathe.
Option 3:
Get divorced. Ask the divorce court to make him pay you $1152.80, plus whatever alimony or child support you would otherwise receive.
Option 4:
Notify the United States postal inspection service and the police. Have him arrested.
You need to sue him in small claims court. There is no lawyer necessary, and you need to be able to prove he actually stole and cashed the check. You can press charges against him first for theft if you wish, but don't expect that to go anywhere...it's a small amount of money for most police departments to investigate.
You need more than ';your word against his,'; for evidence. Get a copy of the check and have a handwriting expert attest to the validity of the endorsement.
go to the police and make a report then get a copy of the check from the bank, you will need copies of both front and back. I would also go to the place where he cashed the check and find out why they cashed it since it was made out to you! they should never cash checks that are made out to someone else. you should find out if you can sue them!
Call the police department and report it. It is illegal to cash someone else's check. Call the insurance company and tell them you know who cashed the check illegally and you want them to reissue it.
This was your money and not his. Don't let someone get away with this theft.
Yes, it's illegal.
Your first step, is to notify the police, and file charges against him. Once he is prosecuted, then you can ask BCBS to reissue the check, and THEY will take over prosecution.
If the check was made out to you, it certainly is. You should not only notify the local police but also the Postal Service inspector.
tell him to pay up or you will call the cops. He also owes any late fees that might have accrued
Tell him he needs to give you the money back or he's going to jail!
Is it okay to end a marriage because your husband is a controlling, manipulative, egotistical brute?
I don't think I love him anymore. I thought I did, but as I learn more about him the more I want to run away. He's jealous, egotistical, possessive, controlling, needy, emotionally-manipulative, hurtful and insulting.
I just don't think I can take this any longer.Is it okay to end a marriage because your husband is a controlling, manipulative, egotistical brute?
Go, baby, go. Once you are out, you can do whatever you want, dance till dawn, seduce a young stud, wear a sexy dress, spend your money how you want, eat when you want, and never have to be put down, accused, or insulted by him again. Good luck.Is it okay to end a marriage because your husband is a controlling, manipulative, egotistical brute?
I think it depends on a few significant factors; i.e., is he unwilling to go to counseling, is your staying with him hurting your children (if you have any), are you driven to self-destrutive behaviors for staying with him (substance abuse, overspending, adultery, cutting, suicidal thoughts, etc.) and so on. Your husband may or may not know how overbearing he is/has become, but you should at the very least attempt to persuade him to try marriage counseling so that these issues are brought out in a quasi-';safe'; setting (where he won't be inclined to threaten you or act out physically). If he refuses to go to counseling but will not acknowledge that he's behaving badly, then you need to look after yourself. You are your own person with needs unique to you and you alone, not an extension of your husband or his ';property.';
It's up to you to decide what kind of relationship you want. Even if you're already married, you still have a right to decide whether or not that relationship is right for you. If you don't think you can take it any longer, there's good news. You don't have to.
Yes, it is. It's crazy how a catalyst can clarify the perspective by allowing you to see things you otherwise might not have.
Don't ignore them. And yes it's ok to divorce. Especially given the traits above. I relate.
This is called abuse. Yes, it's not only OK to end this marriage, but to run like hell.
Yeah. go away. sounds like it could turn into physical abuse.
Yes ! Get out now before its too late !
In short - Yes.
yes
take care of yourself.
How long?
What has he done?
I just don't think I can take this any longer.Is it okay to end a marriage because your husband is a controlling, manipulative, egotistical brute?
Go, baby, go. Once you are out, you can do whatever you want, dance till dawn, seduce a young stud, wear a sexy dress, spend your money how you want, eat when you want, and never have to be put down, accused, or insulted by him again. Good luck.Is it okay to end a marriage because your husband is a controlling, manipulative, egotistical brute?
I think it depends on a few significant factors; i.e., is he unwilling to go to counseling, is your staying with him hurting your children (if you have any), are you driven to self-destrutive behaviors for staying with him (substance abuse, overspending, adultery, cutting, suicidal thoughts, etc.) and so on. Your husband may or may not know how overbearing he is/has become, but you should at the very least attempt to persuade him to try marriage counseling so that these issues are brought out in a quasi-';safe'; setting (where he won't be inclined to threaten you or act out physically). If he refuses to go to counseling but will not acknowledge that he's behaving badly, then you need to look after yourself. You are your own person with needs unique to you and you alone, not an extension of your husband or his ';property.';
It's up to you to decide what kind of relationship you want. Even if you're already married, you still have a right to decide whether or not that relationship is right for you. If you don't think you can take it any longer, there's good news. You don't have to.
Yes, it is. It's crazy how a catalyst can clarify the perspective by allowing you to see things you otherwise might not have.
Don't ignore them. And yes it's ok to divorce. Especially given the traits above. I relate.
This is called abuse. Yes, it's not only OK to end this marriage, but to run like hell.
Yeah. go away. sounds like it could turn into physical abuse.
Yes ! Get out now before its too late !
In short - Yes.
yes
take care of yourself.
How long?
What has he done?
How can I get affordable health insurance for my husband and I in the state of Florida?
I am a healthy 23 yr. old and my husband is a stable 32 yr. old.How can I get affordable health insurance for my husband and I in the state of Florida?
Ultimately, you are the one who determines the affordability of your health insurance plan by deciding how much you will participate in sharing the cost of your health care with your insurance company.
If you choose a plan that covers everything i.e. doctors office visits, prescription drugs, preventative health benefits, maternity coverage as well as low deductibles and low copays your monthly premiums will be significant.
On the other hand you and your husband are young and presumably healthy and if you rarely use the health care system you could consider a plan that covers only the major health catastrophe which will result in a relatively low monthly premium. You then can use the monthly premium savings to pay for the occasional doctor visit and still come out ahead.
You need a trusted adviser to help you through the process of purchasing health insurance so that you understand what you are purchasing. That adviser can answer questions as to what is and is not covered by the policy, explain deductibles and copays and show you the hospitals and doctors that participate in the network. Check with the agent that writes your home or auto insurance he/she can provide you a health insurance proposal that takes into account your budget and health situation.
Some may suggest going on line to get a quote but you probably already know that there is much more to health insurance than price. Some might even ';pitch'; a discount plan that is not insurance at all. Use the Internet to educate yourself but use an agent to purchase the coverage.How can I get affordable health insurance for my husband and I in the state of Florida?
It depends on what you consider ';affordable';. I have clients who are happy with their $1000 per month policy and others who complain about their $100 per month policy.
With health insurance you get what you pay for. Visit a local agent that works with all the major companies in your area. The agent can compare plans for you, answer all of your questions about the plans, and find the best plan for your situation and budget. There is no extra charge using an agent.
I would encourage you to visit this site: www.healthsavings.ourperfectcard.com I signed up online over 5 years ago when I was in college and they have saved me thousands. From Doctor visits, CBC, imaging..etc. All services are included in this very affordable plan. My benefits were even active in 2 hours and was able to use it the very same day. hope this helps.
Feel free to use the tool on my site to get quotes. In FL it'll quote Aetna, UnitedHealth, Assurant, Humana, Celtic and a couple others.
It requires no personal information to use other than a date of birth. Click on the pickle on the home page.
http://www.InsurancePickle.com
and avoid the immediately above advice about getting a discount plan. The FTC has put out warnings about plans like that and I have a copy on my site.
IDK. My husbands friend called the other night and said he is considering re-joining the military or returning to NC because he can't make ends meat in Florida because of the cost of health care. Does your husbands name start with D?
Ultimately, you are the one who determines the affordability of your health insurance plan by deciding how much you will participate in sharing the cost of your health care with your insurance company.
If you choose a plan that covers everything i.e. doctors office visits, prescription drugs, preventative health benefits, maternity coverage as well as low deductibles and low copays your monthly premiums will be significant.
On the other hand you and your husband are young and presumably healthy and if you rarely use the health care system you could consider a plan that covers only the major health catastrophe which will result in a relatively low monthly premium. You then can use the monthly premium savings to pay for the occasional doctor visit and still come out ahead.
You need a trusted adviser to help you through the process of purchasing health insurance so that you understand what you are purchasing. That adviser can answer questions as to what is and is not covered by the policy, explain deductibles and copays and show you the hospitals and doctors that participate in the network. Check with the agent that writes your home or auto insurance he/she can provide you a health insurance proposal that takes into account your budget and health situation.
Some may suggest going on line to get a quote but you probably already know that there is much more to health insurance than price. Some might even ';pitch'; a discount plan that is not insurance at all. Use the Internet to educate yourself but use an agent to purchase the coverage.How can I get affordable health insurance for my husband and I in the state of Florida?
It depends on what you consider ';affordable';. I have clients who are happy with their $1000 per month policy and others who complain about their $100 per month policy.
With health insurance you get what you pay for. Visit a local agent that works with all the major companies in your area. The agent can compare plans for you, answer all of your questions about the plans, and find the best plan for your situation and budget. There is no extra charge using an agent.
I would encourage you to visit this site: www.healthsavings.ourperfectcard.com I signed up online over 5 years ago when I was in college and they have saved me thousands. From Doctor visits, CBC, imaging..etc. All services are included in this very affordable plan. My benefits were even active in 2 hours and was able to use it the very same day. hope this helps.
Feel free to use the tool on my site to get quotes. In FL it'll quote Aetna, UnitedHealth, Assurant, Humana, Celtic and a couple others.
It requires no personal information to use other than a date of birth. Click on the pickle on the home page.
http://www.InsurancePickle.com
and avoid the immediately above advice about getting a discount plan. The FTC has put out warnings about plans like that and I have a copy on my site.
IDK. My husbands friend called the other night and said he is considering re-joining the military or returning to NC because he can't make ends meat in Florida because of the cost of health care. Does your husbands name start with D?
Is my husband entitled to 23 yrs back pay resulting from 3 children and 1 spouse?
My husband was discharged from the Amy under honorable conditions. He got out on 30% disablity. Years later, he married and had 3 children and his pay was never increased to cover his spouse and 3 children. Is he entitled to 23 yrs worth of back pay and increase in his disablity?Is my husband entitled to 23 yrs back pay resulting from 3 children and 1 spouse?
its probably too late now but u need to ask an attorney about this.Is my husband entitled to 23 yrs back pay resulting from 3 children and 1 spouse?
The disability is for something that happened while he was in the service and not married. He isn't going to get any back pay for the children and wife. I don't know if he can get more now that he is married but it won't hurt to try.
1. he was not married when he was in the military - why would they pay him more if he was not married while he was in the service?
2. Disability is for his disability, it is not BAH (the only type of pay you get more for being married)
so im going with no
it's doubtful, he never took the initiative to get the funds when he married. In addition, his wife and kids are gone, he would have to seriously justify why he would need the extra money...in 2009
30% disability has nothing to do with wife and kids at all.
This question doesn't even make sense. Why would he get more money for his disability unless his % was increased? Its not like a retirement.
Probably not at this point. You have a period of time to file for that.
talk to a lawyer. We can't help you here.
Doubt it.
And we wonder why this country has no damn money....
its probably too late now but u need to ask an attorney about this.Is my husband entitled to 23 yrs back pay resulting from 3 children and 1 spouse?
The disability is for something that happened while he was in the service and not married. He isn't going to get any back pay for the children and wife. I don't know if he can get more now that he is married but it won't hurt to try.
1. he was not married when he was in the military - why would they pay him more if he was not married while he was in the service?
2. Disability is for his disability, it is not BAH (the only type of pay you get more for being married)
so im going with no
it's doubtful, he never took the initiative to get the funds when he married. In addition, his wife and kids are gone, he would have to seriously justify why he would need the extra money...in 2009
30% disability has nothing to do with wife and kids at all.
This question doesn't even make sense. Why would he get more money for his disability unless his % was increased? Its not like a retirement.
Probably not at this point. You have a period of time to file for that.
talk to a lawyer. We can't help you here.
Doubt it.
And we wonder why this country has no damn money....
Is it worth trying to fix things with my husband after he cheated, and filed for divorce?
He also was with some one else a week after he filed for it, and now he wants to get back together.Is it worth trying to fix things with my husband after he cheated, and filed for divorce?
i wouldn't take him back if he filed for divorce on me and was with another woman. he just wants to come back because all apparently wasn't so good with this other woman. and now he finds himself dumped and alone and thinks he can just come back to u. its not worth it really its not. if he did this to u now he will do it again the very next time some other woman catches his eye. a man has to be pretty sure he doesn't want u if he files for divorce and moves in with someone new before u even get the divorce.he was probably seeing this woman way before u knew about it, right under your nose. so now that he got the boot he wants u back, i think not.Is it worth trying to fix things with my husband after he cheated, and filed for divorce?
Wow he has nerve to say that all should be forgiven and forgotten. I ask the question of if two people are close in the beginning and one does this how can there be reconciliation where you erase the wrong doing of this magnitude? How can the trust be reconsidered to be placed back in both of your lives? See for some it's too easy to say sorry and please take me back. He filed for divorce too. I find all this too hard to believe him and swallow all this bull sh**. I think you have to figure if it's worth going back. Can you see through those eyes any thing worth saving? I back off of judgment and use the thumbs down on the idea. You can take your chances on the lies and deceit..........
How many years do you have invested in this relationship? And were you happy with him before you found out he cheated?
I was married to my husband for 11 years when I found out about his affair. Besides the fact that I still loved him, I stayed to try and work it out because we had so many years of marriage invested that I didn't want to throw that away without at least trying to make it work. We have now been married 14 years and are very happy together.
You have to do what you think is right for you, but I would say that if you still love him and wish things could work out, you should at least give it a shot. In the end, if yall still get divorced, at least you will know you tried.
If you can see in his eyes, his body and his soul that he is truly apologetic, you might give it another shot. But, this sounds like he is trying to say the minimum possible to keep you hooked and available, and you should not go there. Probably, he is just manipulating the situation so he can keep all his options open.
Eh....no. Obviously he has commitment issues. He cheated once, filed then cheated again, now he wants back together? What has changed? Why does he want to fix the marriage?
I would pause the divorce, and see what has changed, if anything. It would take a long time and a lot of effort for me to forgive and trust a habitual cheater, but it may be possible. He should show you he's changed and prove you can trust him before ANYTHING happens.
Cheating is something that is very difficult to get over. Men and women cheat for different reasons. I used to go by the phrase, ';Once a cheater, always a cheater';, but after going through something similar to your situation, I need to step back a rethink my philosophy. There are some things to keep in mind before deciding whether or not to proceed. First, do you really want your marriage to work. If you have a hesitation, it might not be the best time to attempt to work it out. Second, you would have to set some basic guidelines for his behavior, and yours. I would find a good marriage counselor before you make full amends and go through the ( usually painful) process of working through your problems. He needs to be serious committed to a change in your relationship. We all make mistakes, some more painful than others. Your husband may have realized the error of his ways, and truly wants to make amends, but it is a long, hard process and you both must be prepared to deal with tough, painful issues. The wounds often feel worse before they get better. I wish you all the luck.
Do you honestly want to get back together w/someone who has not only cheated on you, but already filed for a divorce?! He is going to do nothing but heep hurting you time %26amp; time again. He has shown you nothing but disrespect %26amp; has degraded you %26amp; your marriage. I would highly suggest you just cannot %26amp; do NOT want to get hurt time %26amp; time again from him. Accept the fact it's over plain %26amp; simple. You are going to put this cheater in the past %26amp; leave him rite there. You now have a chance of starting a whole new beginning..Just please do not let him hurt you again, because that's all he's going to do %26amp; you certainly DO deserve far better than this. I would tell him absolutely no, you do want the divorce %26amp; a chance of total happiness. I'm a firm believer in things do happen for reasons. You just were NOT meant to be w/him. Keep in mind, when one door closes, another one opens %26amp; it w/just do this for you. Give yourself a chance %26amp; you WILL find happiness w/someone who w/give you the love %26amp; respect you so deserve, Never settle for less, as that's just what you are going to get. Go forward %26amp; you w/NOT regret it...Best to you...:)
What a frikken idiot. He actually thinks that is ok to do to you? WTF kind of a person is that guy? I hope you throw him out on his a ss with not even a suitcase. The nerve of that dude. What planet is the jerk from anyway? I can't believe that you would even ask that question because it shows that you may be considering trying to fix things with him.
My grandmother always told me that once a persons cheats they will do it again. My experience has been that statement is true.
I am left scratching my head why you would even ask should you? He cheated once before filing then again after he filed. How can you be sure there were not more than those two? I would hate to say that a therapist could work. I think your hubby wants his cake and wants to eat it too. If he cares so little of what his cheating does to you, you shouldn't care what this divorce does to him. What is his sudden about face for wanting to make it work? Is he just being selfish? I hate to sound mean but that is just how I see it.
Have you even thought that maybe he wanted to get back together because the girl he was with booted him out? I wouldn't trust him if I was you. He would probably do the same thing again. You don't want to keep getting your heart broken do you? Anyway you should make him suffer a little bit for what he did to you. I'd let him go ahead with the divorce and you go on your way and find someone that won't be cheating on you. You deserve better sweetie. Don't fall for it!
He realized the grass wasn't greener or she realized she didn't like him that much and dumped him.
It's so individual for the couple. He really really hurt and disrespected you. It depends on how much you love him, how sorry he is, how much self esteem you have and how able you are to forgive. Do you think he could ever do this to you again..if you think ';yes'; then I wouldn't give it another thought. It sounds like you still love him. He needs to be truly, completely and repentantly sorry. He needs to talk to you in front of a pastor, priest or rabbi. He broke the marriage vows and threw you under the bus.
I don't think I could. But like I said each couple is different and so is your history. I wish you the best, but he needs to suffer before you just let him come back home.
Actions speak louder then words. He cheated and then filed for divorce, now he wants you back, does he want you back because the other women decided she didn't want him. What happens when you take him back, he cheats again and files for divorce, or may be he has no where to go. A man that loves you won't cheat nor file for divorce.
My answer would be definitely no. Once a cheater always a cheater. I had a spouse like that once. I couldn't forget about the affair and was always wondering when he was out of the house if he was doing it again. Even though there was great sex he still cheated. I don't think that it is worth the emotional stress that you would deal with. Good luck with your decision.
i wouldn't take him back,he ruined your life as a couple and made you unhappy. i would kick his cheating,lying butt to the curb and find a guy who will treat you with respect.
you would also always wonder if he would do it again if you took him back,which statistically would probably happen,once a cheater always a cheater.
i would have nothing more to do with him and move on.
Only you can answer that...can you really get over his infidelity? He sounds like a rogue and a man who needs counseling. If there are children involved and you REALLY want it to work...then go to a marriage counselor. I hate to sound pessimistic....but that behaviour never changes, unless the source of his insecurities are addressed.
This has happened to me too, but I was the cheater this time. I'm 30 years old now and this occured at 22. I was young and stupid, I know.. We stayed married and worked it out and I love him so much for giving me this chance.
It depends on how strong your marriage is, but if he's still with some or was; a week after he filed and still wants you back. It sounds like your he's 2nd choice when the other person doesn't work out.
If he has already filed for divorce, then sorry hun, but do you really actually have a choice in the matter?
It looks like he's already made up his mind, even if he is umming and aahing at the moment.
Not really sure what you think you can salvage from this mess.
If in your heart it's something you need to do, then try. However, he had his fun, at your expense. And also took the time to file for divorce. I'd let him have his divorce. Have yourself checked for any 'gifts' he may have brought home to you. And be sure that you speak with an attny to ensure that receive e/thing you're entitled to.
Are you willing to go through this again? I'm sure he is promising to you that nothing like this will ever happen again. It happened once no I guess in your case twice so what is keeping it from happening again. I wasted 16 more years with my husband who promised it would never happen again. Wish I had stayed strong and left him the first time around. It was much harder for me the second time.
Red
Really depends on why he cheated. ....Affairs Linger....and he will just do it again....especially if he thinks you are totally desperate of being alone and you are afraid.
However, if you are a hot little career minded person with financial means, you can probably do much better for yourself.....trade this guy in for a better model...
I think it depends on you...Everyone will tell you to let him go, he's no good. The questions should be to you will you be happy, living with a person who has betrayed you? Can you learn to forgive him completely, if not you won't be happy. Best of Luck to you!
You can answer this yourself. You deserve way better than this. He sounds like a selfish narcissistic jerk. How many times do you want to let him hurt you and rip your heart out? Aren't you ready to start your new life and find some wonderful man to share your life with yet?
If it was me, I would not take him back. Not for the filing of divorce, but the cheating part. I would not be able to get past that.
It's up to you, only you know your husband. Is he worth it?
If he isn't genuinely sorry for the pain he caused you and isn't going out of his way to make sure you feel okay with the what has happened, then I would say no don't go back with him. He'll do it again to you.
no let him go this is sorta the back that broke up and now trying to come back cause someone is bored. that is no excuse. you can do better.
You really are asking this? I'm sorry, but did you clean the dirt off your back from the last time he walked all over you? Screw him. This is the only way he will learn to respect you. Do not look back.
I wouldn't be able to take him back. He'll do it again. He probably found out that since he was the cheater you'll be entitled to more in the divorce when it happens.
If you BOTH think it's worth the effort, it is. If you both want to try, get yourselves a good marriage counselor.
It's only worth it if you feel right about it. If you still have the same feelings for him and he can show you that he does for you as well....good luck
no he tried to toss you one time what makes you think he won't do it again.why not give yourself a break and start a new life with someone that is worth it
If it was me, I would not do it. But if you really want to give it a try, see if he is willing to go for counseling.
i wouldn't take him back if he filed for divorce on me and was with another woman. he just wants to come back because all apparently wasn't so good with this other woman. and now he finds himself dumped and alone and thinks he can just come back to u. its not worth it really its not. if he did this to u now he will do it again the very next time some other woman catches his eye. a man has to be pretty sure he doesn't want u if he files for divorce and moves in with someone new before u even get the divorce.he was probably seeing this woman way before u knew about it, right under your nose. so now that he got the boot he wants u back, i think not.Is it worth trying to fix things with my husband after he cheated, and filed for divorce?
Wow he has nerve to say that all should be forgiven and forgotten. I ask the question of if two people are close in the beginning and one does this how can there be reconciliation where you erase the wrong doing of this magnitude? How can the trust be reconsidered to be placed back in both of your lives? See for some it's too easy to say sorry and please take me back. He filed for divorce too. I find all this too hard to believe him and swallow all this bull sh**. I think you have to figure if it's worth going back. Can you see through those eyes any thing worth saving? I back off of judgment and use the thumbs down on the idea. You can take your chances on the lies and deceit..........
How many years do you have invested in this relationship? And were you happy with him before you found out he cheated?
I was married to my husband for 11 years when I found out about his affair. Besides the fact that I still loved him, I stayed to try and work it out because we had so many years of marriage invested that I didn't want to throw that away without at least trying to make it work. We have now been married 14 years and are very happy together.
You have to do what you think is right for you, but I would say that if you still love him and wish things could work out, you should at least give it a shot. In the end, if yall still get divorced, at least you will know you tried.
If you can see in his eyes, his body and his soul that he is truly apologetic, you might give it another shot. But, this sounds like he is trying to say the minimum possible to keep you hooked and available, and you should not go there. Probably, he is just manipulating the situation so he can keep all his options open.
Eh....no. Obviously he has commitment issues. He cheated once, filed then cheated again, now he wants back together? What has changed? Why does he want to fix the marriage?
I would pause the divorce, and see what has changed, if anything. It would take a long time and a lot of effort for me to forgive and trust a habitual cheater, but it may be possible. He should show you he's changed and prove you can trust him before ANYTHING happens.
Cheating is something that is very difficult to get over. Men and women cheat for different reasons. I used to go by the phrase, ';Once a cheater, always a cheater';, but after going through something similar to your situation, I need to step back a rethink my philosophy. There are some things to keep in mind before deciding whether or not to proceed. First, do you really want your marriage to work. If you have a hesitation, it might not be the best time to attempt to work it out. Second, you would have to set some basic guidelines for his behavior, and yours. I would find a good marriage counselor before you make full amends and go through the ( usually painful) process of working through your problems. He needs to be serious committed to a change in your relationship. We all make mistakes, some more painful than others. Your husband may have realized the error of his ways, and truly wants to make amends, but it is a long, hard process and you both must be prepared to deal with tough, painful issues. The wounds often feel worse before they get better. I wish you all the luck.
Do you honestly want to get back together w/someone who has not only cheated on you, but already filed for a divorce?! He is going to do nothing but heep hurting you time %26amp; time again. He has shown you nothing but disrespect %26amp; has degraded you %26amp; your marriage. I would highly suggest you just cannot %26amp; do NOT want to get hurt time %26amp; time again from him. Accept the fact it's over plain %26amp; simple. You are going to put this cheater in the past %26amp; leave him rite there. You now have a chance of starting a whole new beginning..Just please do not let him hurt you again, because that's all he's going to do %26amp; you certainly DO deserve far better than this. I would tell him absolutely no, you do want the divorce %26amp; a chance of total happiness. I'm a firm believer in things do happen for reasons. You just were NOT meant to be w/him. Keep in mind, when one door closes, another one opens %26amp; it w/just do this for you. Give yourself a chance %26amp; you WILL find happiness w/someone who w/give you the love %26amp; respect you so deserve, Never settle for less, as that's just what you are going to get. Go forward %26amp; you w/NOT regret it...Best to you...:)
What a frikken idiot. He actually thinks that is ok to do to you? WTF kind of a person is that guy? I hope you throw him out on his a ss with not even a suitcase. The nerve of that dude. What planet is the jerk from anyway? I can't believe that you would even ask that question because it shows that you may be considering trying to fix things with him.
My grandmother always told me that once a persons cheats they will do it again. My experience has been that statement is true.
I am left scratching my head why you would even ask should you? He cheated once before filing then again after he filed. How can you be sure there were not more than those two? I would hate to say that a therapist could work. I think your hubby wants his cake and wants to eat it too. If he cares so little of what his cheating does to you, you shouldn't care what this divorce does to him. What is his sudden about face for wanting to make it work? Is he just being selfish? I hate to sound mean but that is just how I see it.
Have you even thought that maybe he wanted to get back together because the girl he was with booted him out? I wouldn't trust him if I was you. He would probably do the same thing again. You don't want to keep getting your heart broken do you? Anyway you should make him suffer a little bit for what he did to you. I'd let him go ahead with the divorce and you go on your way and find someone that won't be cheating on you. You deserve better sweetie. Don't fall for it!
He realized the grass wasn't greener or she realized she didn't like him that much and dumped him.
It's so individual for the couple. He really really hurt and disrespected you. It depends on how much you love him, how sorry he is, how much self esteem you have and how able you are to forgive. Do you think he could ever do this to you again..if you think ';yes'; then I wouldn't give it another thought. It sounds like you still love him. He needs to be truly, completely and repentantly sorry. He needs to talk to you in front of a pastor, priest or rabbi. He broke the marriage vows and threw you under the bus.
I don't think I could. But like I said each couple is different and so is your history. I wish you the best, but he needs to suffer before you just let him come back home.
Actions speak louder then words. He cheated and then filed for divorce, now he wants you back, does he want you back because the other women decided she didn't want him. What happens when you take him back, he cheats again and files for divorce, or may be he has no where to go. A man that loves you won't cheat nor file for divorce.
My answer would be definitely no. Once a cheater always a cheater. I had a spouse like that once. I couldn't forget about the affair and was always wondering when he was out of the house if he was doing it again. Even though there was great sex he still cheated. I don't think that it is worth the emotional stress that you would deal with. Good luck with your decision.
i wouldn't take him back,he ruined your life as a couple and made you unhappy. i would kick his cheating,lying butt to the curb and find a guy who will treat you with respect.
you would also always wonder if he would do it again if you took him back,which statistically would probably happen,once a cheater always a cheater.
i would have nothing more to do with him and move on.
Only you can answer that...can you really get over his infidelity? He sounds like a rogue and a man who needs counseling. If there are children involved and you REALLY want it to work...then go to a marriage counselor. I hate to sound pessimistic....but that behaviour never changes, unless the source of his insecurities are addressed.
This has happened to me too, but I was the cheater this time. I'm 30 years old now and this occured at 22. I was young and stupid, I know.. We stayed married and worked it out and I love him so much for giving me this chance.
It depends on how strong your marriage is, but if he's still with some or was; a week after he filed and still wants you back. It sounds like your he's 2nd choice when the other person doesn't work out.
If he has already filed for divorce, then sorry hun, but do you really actually have a choice in the matter?
It looks like he's already made up his mind, even if he is umming and aahing at the moment.
Not really sure what you think you can salvage from this mess.
If in your heart it's something you need to do, then try. However, he had his fun, at your expense. And also took the time to file for divorce. I'd let him have his divorce. Have yourself checked for any 'gifts' he may have brought home to you. And be sure that you speak with an attny to ensure that receive e/thing you're entitled to.
Are you willing to go through this again? I'm sure he is promising to you that nothing like this will ever happen again. It happened once no I guess in your case twice so what is keeping it from happening again. I wasted 16 more years with my husband who promised it would never happen again. Wish I had stayed strong and left him the first time around. It was much harder for me the second time.
Red
Really depends on why he cheated. ....Affairs Linger....and he will just do it again....especially if he thinks you are totally desperate of being alone and you are afraid.
However, if you are a hot little career minded person with financial means, you can probably do much better for yourself.....trade this guy in for a better model...
I think it depends on you...Everyone will tell you to let him go, he's no good. The questions should be to you will you be happy, living with a person who has betrayed you? Can you learn to forgive him completely, if not you won't be happy. Best of Luck to you!
You can answer this yourself. You deserve way better than this. He sounds like a selfish narcissistic jerk. How many times do you want to let him hurt you and rip your heart out? Aren't you ready to start your new life and find some wonderful man to share your life with yet?
If it was me, I would not take him back. Not for the filing of divorce, but the cheating part. I would not be able to get past that.
It's up to you, only you know your husband. Is he worth it?
If he isn't genuinely sorry for the pain he caused you and isn't going out of his way to make sure you feel okay with the what has happened, then I would say no don't go back with him. He'll do it again to you.
no let him go this is sorta the back that broke up and now trying to come back cause someone is bored. that is no excuse. you can do better.
You really are asking this? I'm sorry, but did you clean the dirt off your back from the last time he walked all over you? Screw him. This is the only way he will learn to respect you. Do not look back.
I wouldn't be able to take him back. He'll do it again. He probably found out that since he was the cheater you'll be entitled to more in the divorce when it happens.
If you BOTH think it's worth the effort, it is. If you both want to try, get yourselves a good marriage counselor.
It's only worth it if you feel right about it. If you still have the same feelings for him and he can show you that he does for you as well....good luck
no he tried to toss you one time what makes you think he won't do it again.why not give yourself a break and start a new life with someone that is worth it
If it was me, I would not do it. But if you really want to give it a try, see if he is willing to go for counseling.
I am looking for a vacation spot for my husband and I near or in Ontario Canada?
We live near Toronto and don't wish to travel more than 6 hours away driving. We don't have a lot of money. Probably going in September or October. We enjoy hotels, shopping, cabins, retreats etc. Any recommendations are appreciated.I am looking for a vacation spot for my husband and I near or in Ontario Canada?
Both the suggestions for Algonquin Park are great - I used to work in the Park and I loved spending summers up there. September will be very nice and since the Park pretty much quiets down after Labour Day weekend, it won't be quite so crowded.
If you don't want to go north, you could try Niagara area. My favourite place is White Oaks Hotel %26amp; Resort which is just outside Niagara on the Lake. It's a bit pricey but well worth the stay. Another possibility, which is right in Niagara on the Lake is Queen's Landing. You can walk to great shopping on the main street and it's a quick drive to about 20 different wineries in the area. If you go in late September, the Niagara Wine Festival runs from Friday, September 22nd to October 1st which is a Sunday so there will be plenty of activities going on in the area.
Hope you have a great trip.I am looking for a vacation spot for my husband and I near or in Ontario Canada?
You can't beat Algonquin Park. How about staying in a cottage at Bartlett Lodge? Or one at the Algonquin Inn? (which is about 5 minutes from the park). You can look at the various rooms and cabins and the fares on their websites.
http://www.bartlettlodge.com/accommodati…
http://www.algonquininn.com/cottages.htm
Actually I was going to write what *crazylegs* said. Algonquin is a BEAUTIFUL provincial park. Have gone camping there a few times (desperate to go again this year) and saw dozens of bird of prey, moose galore, and bears. I would reccommend the wolf howl (normally starting around this time I think) My end of the 600 car line up didn't hear them but the other end did and it was quite an experiance!!
what about kingston :) its only 3 hours or so on the 401,
we have lots of nice hotels,, and bed and breakfasts.. while here you can check out the 1000's island..
there is usually some sort of fesitval or something neat to check out either here or in near by gan (there is a casino in gan)
also brockville and belleville are near by..
westport is about 45 mins north of kingston
and it is a beautiful little town with lots of neat little shops and resteraunts
From one Canadian to another may I suggest perhaps going north. It's about a 3.5 hour drive to Algonquin Park and the nature is beautiful. About a half hour outside the park is Huntsville and there are many fine shops there and some good restaurants also, I would recommend Louis' as it has the best Greek salad this old man has ever eaten. For the price of gas and some accommodations you would have a fantastic time, you could rent canoes or just take in the beauty that would be surrounding you at that time of year. I don't even live in that section of Ontario but would recommend it to anyone without hesitation. Have a great holiday regardless of you go and drive safely.
Manitoulin Island, you can take the fairy from Tobemory (at the end on the Bruce Peninsula) to South bay. Its a nice ride across and isn't too expensive. Manitoulin Island itself is the largest freshwater island in the world, and it is absolutely beautiful.
Do a google search on it and get some pics, truly breathtaking.
Its more of a getaway type place where you will find lots of bed and breakfast type places. Like I said do a search of ';Manitoulin Island and you will find all kinds of info.
how about wasaga beach?
http://www.ontarioparks.com/english/wasa…
Try Bobcaygeon or Tobermory. Both beautiful and easily within 6 hours (not sure exactly how close) of Toronto.
You might want to try the Thousand Island region. It'S absolutely beautiful, you can take a cruise on the St. Lawrence river and see all the beautiful houses, even stop at two of them to visit them (though they're on American territory, you would need a passport or birth certificate to go to those islands). I went two years ago and really liked it. There are lots of hotels or inns you can stay at. Check the link below.
Lake Simcoe and Hudson Bay come to mind. Even though I usually liked these spots best in summer when one could go swimming.
Sparrow lake is another.
Sir Sam's is nice (google it) --near muskoka
Niagara on the lake...try White Oaks inn
Both the suggestions for Algonquin Park are great - I used to work in the Park and I loved spending summers up there. September will be very nice and since the Park pretty much quiets down after Labour Day weekend, it won't be quite so crowded.
If you don't want to go north, you could try Niagara area. My favourite place is White Oaks Hotel %26amp; Resort which is just outside Niagara on the Lake. It's a bit pricey but well worth the stay. Another possibility, which is right in Niagara on the Lake is Queen's Landing. You can walk to great shopping on the main street and it's a quick drive to about 20 different wineries in the area. If you go in late September, the Niagara Wine Festival runs from Friday, September 22nd to October 1st which is a Sunday so there will be plenty of activities going on in the area.
Hope you have a great trip.I am looking for a vacation spot for my husband and I near or in Ontario Canada?
You can't beat Algonquin Park. How about staying in a cottage at Bartlett Lodge? Or one at the Algonquin Inn? (which is about 5 minutes from the park). You can look at the various rooms and cabins and the fares on their websites.
http://www.bartlettlodge.com/accommodati…
http://www.algonquininn.com/cottages.htm
Actually I was going to write what *crazylegs* said. Algonquin is a BEAUTIFUL provincial park. Have gone camping there a few times (desperate to go again this year) and saw dozens of bird of prey, moose galore, and bears. I would reccommend the wolf howl (normally starting around this time I think) My end of the 600 car line up didn't hear them but the other end did and it was quite an experiance!!
what about kingston :) its only 3 hours or so on the 401,
we have lots of nice hotels,, and bed and breakfasts.. while here you can check out the 1000's island..
there is usually some sort of fesitval or something neat to check out either here or in near by gan (there is a casino in gan)
also brockville and belleville are near by..
westport is about 45 mins north of kingston
and it is a beautiful little town with lots of neat little shops and resteraunts
From one Canadian to another may I suggest perhaps going north. It's about a 3.5 hour drive to Algonquin Park and the nature is beautiful. About a half hour outside the park is Huntsville and there are many fine shops there and some good restaurants also, I would recommend Louis' as it has the best Greek salad this old man has ever eaten. For the price of gas and some accommodations you would have a fantastic time, you could rent canoes or just take in the beauty that would be surrounding you at that time of year. I don't even live in that section of Ontario but would recommend it to anyone without hesitation. Have a great holiday regardless of you go and drive safely.
Manitoulin Island, you can take the fairy from Tobemory (at the end on the Bruce Peninsula) to South bay. Its a nice ride across and isn't too expensive. Manitoulin Island itself is the largest freshwater island in the world, and it is absolutely beautiful.
Do a google search on it and get some pics, truly breathtaking.
Its more of a getaway type place where you will find lots of bed and breakfast type places. Like I said do a search of ';Manitoulin Island and you will find all kinds of info.
how about wasaga beach?
http://www.ontarioparks.com/english/wasa…
Try Bobcaygeon or Tobermory. Both beautiful and easily within 6 hours (not sure exactly how close) of Toronto.
You might want to try the Thousand Island region. It'S absolutely beautiful, you can take a cruise on the St. Lawrence river and see all the beautiful houses, even stop at two of them to visit them (though they're on American territory, you would need a passport or birth certificate to go to those islands). I went two years ago and really liked it. There are lots of hotels or inns you can stay at. Check the link below.
Lake Simcoe and Hudson Bay come to mind. Even though I usually liked these spots best in summer when one could go swimming.
Sparrow lake is another.
Sir Sam's is nice (google it) --near muskoka
Niagara on the lake...try White Oaks inn
I'm planning a 50th birthday party for my husband. I would like to know if someone can recommend?
a store in New Jersey that makes elegant/amazing invitations. My husband is a golf freak.I'm planning a 50th birthday party for my husband. I would like to know if someone can recommend?
Many of the Hallmark and card stores carry invitation books for all occassions. I simply went through a local Hallmark store in Clark, NJ for my wedding invitations.
You might also want to see if there are any scrapbookers who will be willing to make your golf invitations. Check out local Yahoo groups, or your local Craigslist under the WANTED section.
Good luck!I'm planning a 50th birthday party for my husband. I would like to know if someone can recommend?
My husband is a Golf freak as well and I got ideas from this site and printed my own!
http://www.impressinprint.com/FILE-items鈥?/a>
You can get pictures from here
http://office.microsoft.com/en-us/clipar鈥?/a>
Be creative
And also they love lots of balls right so make sure you toss in there box of fav balls!
Thats the best gift you can get a golfer
Why don't you go to a scrap book store or even to Walmart, JoAnn's, Hobby Lobby, ACMoore. You can get some cut outs for golf and make personalized ones.maybelline matte lipstick
Many of the Hallmark and card stores carry invitation books for all occassions. I simply went through a local Hallmark store in Clark, NJ for my wedding invitations.
You might also want to see if there are any scrapbookers who will be willing to make your golf invitations. Check out local Yahoo groups, or your local Craigslist under the WANTED section.
Good luck!I'm planning a 50th birthday party for my husband. I would like to know if someone can recommend?
My husband is a Golf freak as well and I got ideas from this site and printed my own!
http://www.impressinprint.com/FILE-items鈥?/a>
You can get pictures from here
http://office.microsoft.com/en-us/clipar鈥?/a>
Be creative
And also they love lots of balls right so make sure you toss in there box of fav balls!
Thats the best gift you can get a golfer
Why don't you go to a scrap book store or even to Walmart, JoAnn's, Hobby Lobby, ACMoore. You can get some cut outs for golf and make personalized ones.
Got my husband a ps3 last christmas. What are some good games to get him for this christmas?
I know it may sound early but I have alot of relatives that we buy for so I like to start during the summer. Usually around July. Well, thanks!
Any game that is out before christmas will work.
I do know that he likes RPG games and Metal Gear Solid. Just bought him the new one. He loves it.Got my husband a ps3 last christmas. What are some good games to get him for this christmas?
Hello!!!
some game that i like for the ps3 r:
-Assassin's Creed
-Devil May Cry 4
-Heavenly Sword
-Folklore*
-Ninja Gaiden Sigma
-Disgaea 3 (comin soon)*
-The Elder Scrolls IV: Oblivion*
the ones that has * r RPG
hope this helps u
^_^
take care
byeGot my husband a ps3 last christmas. What are some good games to get him for this christmas?
Since Christmas is quite a ways away still, I would recommend the following unreleased titles:
Soul Calibur IV - July 29, 2008
Disgaea 3: Absense of Justice - Aug 26, 2008
Dead Space - October 2008
Fallout 3 - Highly Recommended. Will probably sell out once it hits shelves in October.
Motor Storm 2 if he likes Hi-Def racing games. - October 08
Saints Row 2 - Great if he likes games similiar to Grand Theft Auto. Not for kids though.
BioShock - Oct 15 2008 - Great FPS
These are games I can personally put a stamp of quality on if he wants the newest games coming out later this year.
You can also go to ign.com and look up the latest reviews on some of these games coming out in the near future.
Resistance: Fall of Man- a first person shooter that was by far the best Ps3 launch title.
Uncharted: Drakes Fortune- a very good game with a great story and amazing gameplay.
Call of Duty 4- The best online shooter availble for all systems, but i wouldn't advise getting it if he doesn't play online.
Assassin's Creed- a fun and well-rounded game that was voted game of the year for 2007 by several websites/magazines.
UR A GODDESS TO ALL MEN!!!
OKAY, u can get him
1-Grand Theft Auto IV
2-Call of Duty 4
3-Battlefield:Bad Company
4-Resistance: Fall of Man
There are also alot coming out around christmas
LIKE...
1)Naruto Ultimate Ninja Storm
2) Saints Row 2
Try Dynasty Warriors 6.
and Assassins Creed.
Any game that is out before christmas will work.
I do know that he likes RPG games and Metal Gear Solid. Just bought him the new one. He loves it.Got my husband a ps3 last christmas. What are some good games to get him for this christmas?
Hello!!!
some game that i like for the ps3 r:
-Assassin's Creed
-Devil May Cry 4
-Heavenly Sword
-Folklore*
-Ninja Gaiden Sigma
-Disgaea 3 (comin soon)*
-The Elder Scrolls IV: Oblivion*
the ones that has * r RPG
hope this helps u
^_^
take care
byeGot my husband a ps3 last christmas. What are some good games to get him for this christmas?
Since Christmas is quite a ways away still, I would recommend the following unreleased titles:
Soul Calibur IV - July 29, 2008
Disgaea 3: Absense of Justice - Aug 26, 2008
Dead Space - October 2008
Fallout 3 - Highly Recommended. Will probably sell out once it hits shelves in October.
Motor Storm 2 if he likes Hi-Def racing games. - October 08
Saints Row 2 - Great if he likes games similiar to Grand Theft Auto. Not for kids though.
BioShock - Oct 15 2008 - Great FPS
These are games I can personally put a stamp of quality on if he wants the newest games coming out later this year.
You can also go to ign.com and look up the latest reviews on some of these games coming out in the near future.
Resistance: Fall of Man- a first person shooter that was by far the best Ps3 launch title.
Uncharted: Drakes Fortune- a very good game with a great story and amazing gameplay.
Call of Duty 4- The best online shooter availble for all systems, but i wouldn't advise getting it if he doesn't play online.
Assassin's Creed- a fun and well-rounded game that was voted game of the year for 2007 by several websites/magazines.
UR A GODDESS TO ALL MEN!!!
OKAY, u can get him
1-Grand Theft Auto IV
2-Call of Duty 4
3-Battlefield:Bad Company
4-Resistance: Fall of Man
There are also alot coming out around christmas
LIKE...
1)Naruto Ultimate Ninja Storm
2) Saints Row 2
Try Dynasty Warriors 6.
and Assassins Creed.
Can my husband get a job without a visa?
My husbands visa expired. We are in the process of getting him a green card. We have been married for over a year, and the company he works for is about to go out of business. I am not exactly sure where we are in the process of getting the green card. All of the paperwork and medical requirements have been sent and we are waiting for what comes next. We really need a 2 income household! Can he get another job in the meantime? I believe his SS card is conditional with his visa, which is now expired. Does he need another visa and if so which one?Can my husband get a job without a visa?
Is he in the process of getting a green card through you, or the company? that may make a serious difference under the circumstances. If he's in the process of adjusting status through you, and you've filed an I-130 immigrant petition for him, and an I-485 adjustment of status form, you can also file for work authorization. if it's happening through the company, that could be a serious problem, if they do go out of business. If you are an American and haven't filed any paperwork yet, take a look at uscis.gov and look in the form section for the instructions for the I-485. there's a lot of useful information there.Can my husband get a job without a visa?
If he filed I-765 Employment Authorization Document with I-485, he can get work permit within 90 days from the Receipt Date. Otherwise, you have to wait until you get green card approval at the interview.
Around here mostly at McDonalds or doing landscaping or unskilled construction jobs.
Check out bank robbers anonymous. Lots of openings...
Is he in the process of getting a green card through you, or the company? that may make a serious difference under the circumstances. If he's in the process of adjusting status through you, and you've filed an I-130 immigrant petition for him, and an I-485 adjustment of status form, you can also file for work authorization. if it's happening through the company, that could be a serious problem, if they do go out of business. If you are an American and haven't filed any paperwork yet, take a look at uscis.gov and look in the form section for the instructions for the I-485. there's a lot of useful information there.Can my husband get a job without a visa?
If he filed I-765 Employment Authorization Document with I-485, he can get work permit within 90 days from the Receipt Date. Otherwise, you have to wait until you get green card approval at the interview.
Around here mostly at McDonalds or doing landscaping or unskilled construction jobs.
Check out bank robbers anonymous. Lots of openings...
Can my husband get satellite internet in his room while serving in Iraq?
I need to know the name of the company that could offer that service and how much approx. it costs. Does Hughes Net work over there in Iraq?
I know there a place for soldiers to check emails and call, but he wants to have something in his room with his own laptop.Can my husband get satellite internet in his room while serving in Iraq?
Usually the base has a company/contractor that provides internet access, where they can pay for wireless.
Right now my husband is in Al Asad and we pay $70 a month for wireless through Radius Cafe that is available on base.
However, I will add that contact/connection is shaky. When he is available to chat (not working), it has been worth it.Can my husband get satellite internet in his room while serving in Iraq?
We had it in our room and paid for it as a group when I was there - it worked pretty well. The name of the companies vary from base to base. You do have to pay for it out of your own pocket and I thought it was great to have so you didn't have to go to the internet cafes to check email or chat back to the wife and kids.
He can pay for it if he want it. If he has a job that works 9-5, their called support personnel than it would be worth it. If he actually leaves the wire than probably a waste of money.
I know there a place for soldiers to check emails and call, but he wants to have something in his room with his own laptop.Can my husband get satellite internet in his room while serving in Iraq?
Usually the base has a company/contractor that provides internet access, where they can pay for wireless.
Right now my husband is in Al Asad and we pay $70 a month for wireless through Radius Cafe that is available on base.
However, I will add that contact/connection is shaky. When he is available to chat (not working), it has been worth it.Can my husband get satellite internet in his room while serving in Iraq?
We had it in our room and paid for it as a group when I was there - it worked pretty well. The name of the companies vary from base to base. You do have to pay for it out of your own pocket and I thought it was great to have so you didn't have to go to the internet cafes to check email or chat back to the wife and kids.
He can pay for it if he want it. If he has a job that works 9-5, their called support personnel than it would be worth it. If he actually leaves the wire than probably a waste of money.
Help my husband is driving me crazy what do i do?
First off he is a crazy jelous guy. He always want to know what im doing every moment of every single day!! He works away alot, and always expects me to call him and let him know everything that is going on. Now he gets pissed off if i forget my cell or just forget to call before even going to the store. Im at home with three kids what the hell soes he think im doing? I dont understand why he is acting this way, HELP?Help my husband is driving me crazy what do i do?
I don't know, there could be a number of reasons or no reason at all. Hubby may just be lonely and misses you. Of course, hubby may be a bit of a control freak, or suspect you of infidelity. There is so much insanity going on in many marriages these days, no wonder DR. PHIL is so replete with sad-sack guests.
I can tell you one thing: There is no one on DESPERATE HOUSEWIVES who would ever put up with this much nonsense as you have had to to date.
Help my husband is driving me crazy what do i do?
You married a really jealous crazy fellow. Now that you're this deep about the only thing I can come up with is to set some type of boundaries you can live with. If he can't live with some sort of boundaries then you need to get more extreme with your punishment to him. You've endured years of this behavior and had 3 children with him or around him so you've set yourself up for this kind of situation...now that your bed is made either lie in it or get the hell up and out of it somehow. It wont be easy but it'll be easier than a life of reporting to a marriage parole officer minute by minute. Make a move and stick with it...face the consequences and potential separation or more. Good luck.
This might be it...
Either your husband is really insecure about himself and feels that by him not being there you could do anything... And it might be difficult for him to know how you feel if things have been rocky...Because someimes we all just want to be reminded why we ae loved and that we still are being loved by our other...
in this case just talk to him..now talk and try to keep away from fighting. Talking in person and just try to get a calm environment for the two. And just ask him what going on? Why does he feel that way? Did you do something to provoke it?....Or is it that people are saying things? Just hear him out and once you know his side explain yours and how his actions make you feel.. cuase there needs to be communication between the two.. maybe that might be it. You might just need to talk and try to make time for the two to try to remind eachother about why you guys love eachother and choose to be together..
I agree with general, learn his rules and follow them, show him you are trust worthy, when he calls you say im glad you called i missed your voice. Help him feel secure he is your husband...but if he still acts crazy go to a marriage councelor because he might be insecure because maybe he is the one being unfaithful.
My wife is the same way. She decided (correctly) that I am pretty indisciplined and would do better if I was more accountable. Yeah, I admit that it chafes at time, but I know that it's best for both of us and for our marriage.
So I do it. I don't forget my phone and I don't forget to call. Yes, she had to punish me a few times, especially in the beginning, but it's not such a problem now.
He could be doing things and is guilty so he is projecting this guilt on you.
He is insecure. Learn his rules and follow them.
I don't know, there could be a number of reasons or no reason at all. Hubby may just be lonely and misses you. Of course, hubby may be a bit of a control freak, or suspect you of infidelity. There is so much insanity going on in many marriages these days, no wonder DR. PHIL is so replete with sad-sack guests.
I can tell you one thing: There is no one on DESPERATE HOUSEWIVES who would ever put up with this much nonsense as you have had to to date.
Help my husband is driving me crazy what do i do?
You married a really jealous crazy fellow. Now that you're this deep about the only thing I can come up with is to set some type of boundaries you can live with. If he can't live with some sort of boundaries then you need to get more extreme with your punishment to him. You've endured years of this behavior and had 3 children with him or around him so you've set yourself up for this kind of situation...now that your bed is made either lie in it or get the hell up and out of it somehow. It wont be easy but it'll be easier than a life of reporting to a marriage parole officer minute by minute. Make a move and stick with it...face the consequences and potential separation or more. Good luck.
This might be it...
Either your husband is really insecure about himself and feels that by him not being there you could do anything... And it might be difficult for him to know how you feel if things have been rocky...Because someimes we all just want to be reminded why we ae loved and that we still are being loved by our other...
in this case just talk to him..now talk and try to keep away from fighting. Talking in person and just try to get a calm environment for the two. And just ask him what going on? Why does he feel that way? Did you do something to provoke it?....Or is it that people are saying things? Just hear him out and once you know his side explain yours and how his actions make you feel.. cuase there needs to be communication between the two.. maybe that might be it. You might just need to talk and try to make time for the two to try to remind eachother about why you guys love eachother and choose to be together..
I agree with general, learn his rules and follow them, show him you are trust worthy, when he calls you say im glad you called i missed your voice. Help him feel secure he is your husband...but if he still acts crazy go to a marriage councelor because he might be insecure because maybe he is the one being unfaithful.
My wife is the same way. She decided (correctly) that I am pretty indisciplined and would do better if I was more accountable. Yeah, I admit that it chafes at time, but I know that it's best for both of us and for our marriage.
So I do it. I don't forget my phone and I don't forget to call. Yes, she had to punish me a few times, especially in the beginning, but it's not such a problem now.
He could be doing things and is guilty so he is projecting this guilt on you.
He is insecure. Learn his rules and follow them.
What are some filling foods I can prepare my husband to take for lunch?
So I am the one in our house who decides what groceries we buy and I prepare all the meals (it's fair I don't wash any dishes). My husband goes to work with his lunch and complains that he's still hungry all the time. He ends up buying over priced junk and it a. doesn't fill him long and b. wastes our money. What are some rather filling foods/ meals he could take with him to work?What are some filling foods I can prepare my husband to take for lunch?
Tuna pasta (cold) with mayo, onion, sweetcorn and some bread x YUMWhat are some filling foods I can prepare my husband to take for lunch?
i usually take home made smoothies to work quite often. (i put em' in a thermos) i fill them up with about 90% fruit and a splash of milk. goes great with a sandwich or something else that's generally easy to make. keeps me full for a good couple hours!
make him a big sub, send a bag of chips, and maybe some cookies. or u could get hot pockets, have that with chips. tv dinners .. pretty much anything u think will fill him, why dont u ask him what he would like
I like to make a variety of sandwiches that I can munch on several times per day.
Add some fruit, muesli bars, biscuits and yogurt.
Pasta is very filling. You can also try egg and ham mayo sandwiches
Tuna pasta (cold) with mayo, onion, sweetcorn and some bread x YUMWhat are some filling foods I can prepare my husband to take for lunch?
i usually take home made smoothies to work quite often. (i put em' in a thermos) i fill them up with about 90% fruit and a splash of milk. goes great with a sandwich or something else that's generally easy to make. keeps me full for a good couple hours!
make him a big sub, send a bag of chips, and maybe some cookies. or u could get hot pockets, have that with chips. tv dinners .. pretty much anything u think will fill him, why dont u ask him what he would like
I like to make a variety of sandwiches that I can munch on several times per day.
Add some fruit, muesli bars, biscuits and yogurt.
Pasta is very filling. You can also try egg and ham mayo sandwiches
How willing is a girl to cheat on her husband?
because i,have a crush on a married woman and i think she likes me too.How willing is a girl to cheat on her husband?
the real question is how willing is her husband to find you and hurt you?
your disgusting go find some one who is singleHow willing is a girl to cheat on her husband?
Just a question - how would you feel if your wife/fiancee/partner/girlfriend had someone hanging around her, hoping that she likes him back, and going on the internet asking whether she should cheat on you?
I'm not married btw - I don't believe that it's got any use, but for most people it does mean something.
There are many factors that could alter a womans judgement. Don't act on this becuase it won't end well for you or her. If her husband found out he might cuase both of you serious physical harm. Also it will make her feel terrible inside if she has a slip up with you. I would say if you guys have some harmless flirting going on then okay, but there are plenty of other sexy women out there who aren't taken and are just waiting for a guy like you to come along and sweep them off thier feet. You think you just want her becuz she's already taken? Why do guys always want what they can't have???
as with all men you are lead by the little pecker first, all else comes last! so, understand this.....keep your hands off what is not yours!!!! what you sow, you reap, call it Karma then....if you were married to this woman and some tosser came along and started to flirt with her, what would you want her to do??? mmmm, me thinketh the answer would be...get your hands off mate! so, you do it! common use some brain power!
Honestly I Think That Is Not Right.
But Since You Are Gonna Do What You Wanna Do I Will Tell You What I Think.
Usually When A Man And A Woman Marry, Its Because They Love Each Other [More Than Just A One Night Stand, You Know?] And The Want To Be With Each Other Forever.
So Instead Of Being A Male Home Wrecker, Get A Life.
that would depend on her morals.... however if she does cheat on her husband its most likely she will cheat on you in the future.
Just because she likes you that doen't mean she will cheat. We ladies just like the attention.Continue to be patient and one day if her husband ever screws up she will be yours for the taking.
Because she may be willing to cheat doesn't mean that you should
help her. She is married. That should mean something.
That question is impossible to answer.
Everyone is different.
why would you want a cheater???????if she cheats on her hubby...she would cheat on you....sheesh............so find a single girl....not nice to steal a married mans woman...
Oh, a difficult question to ask
all depends on how her relationship with her husband is going
very likely if her husband isnt a good dick giver or abusive just ask her qustions that u can do nd ask if she ever tried i if not scedule a cople of play dates then pull an all nighter-
She's my wife. Hands off matey.
You don't wanna be that guy.
wow! she shouldnt be tempted at all especially if she loves the guy
good idea.
nothing bad can come of this.maybelline matte lipstick
the real question is how willing is her husband to find you and hurt you?
your disgusting go find some one who is singleHow willing is a girl to cheat on her husband?
Just a question - how would you feel if your wife/fiancee/partner/girlfriend had someone hanging around her, hoping that she likes him back, and going on the internet asking whether she should cheat on you?
I'm not married btw - I don't believe that it's got any use, but for most people it does mean something.
There are many factors that could alter a womans judgement. Don't act on this becuase it won't end well for you or her. If her husband found out he might cuase both of you serious physical harm. Also it will make her feel terrible inside if she has a slip up with you. I would say if you guys have some harmless flirting going on then okay, but there are plenty of other sexy women out there who aren't taken and are just waiting for a guy like you to come along and sweep them off thier feet. You think you just want her becuz she's already taken? Why do guys always want what they can't have???
as with all men you are lead by the little pecker first, all else comes last! so, understand this.....keep your hands off what is not yours!!!! what you sow, you reap, call it Karma then....if you were married to this woman and some tosser came along and started to flirt with her, what would you want her to do??? mmmm, me thinketh the answer would be...get your hands off mate! so, you do it! common use some brain power!
Honestly I Think That Is Not Right.
But Since You Are Gonna Do What You Wanna Do I Will Tell You What I Think.
Usually When A Man And A Woman Marry, Its Because They Love Each Other [More Than Just A One Night Stand, You Know?] And The Want To Be With Each Other Forever.
So Instead Of Being A Male Home Wrecker, Get A Life.
that would depend on her morals.... however if she does cheat on her husband its most likely she will cheat on you in the future.
Just because she likes you that doen't mean she will cheat. We ladies just like the attention.Continue to be patient and one day if her husband ever screws up she will be yours for the taking.
Because she may be willing to cheat doesn't mean that you should
help her. She is married. That should mean something.
That question is impossible to answer.
Everyone is different.
why would you want a cheater???????if she cheats on her hubby...she would cheat on you....sheesh............so find a single girl....not nice to steal a married mans woman...
Oh, a difficult question to ask
all depends on how her relationship with her husband is going
very likely if her husband isnt a good dick giver or abusive just ask her qustions that u can do nd ask if she ever tried i if not scedule a cople of play dates then pull an all nighter-
She's my wife. Hands off matey.
You don't wanna be that guy.
wow! she shouldnt be tempted at all especially if she loves the guy
good idea.
nothing bad can come of this.
My estranged husband stole and cashed a check from my mailbox from my insurance company. Isn't that illegal?
I just discovered that my estranged husband stole and cashed a check for $1,152.80 from my mailbox last November that Blue Cross Blue Shield mailed directly to me instead of mailing it to my Health Care Provider for services rendered in August, 2008. When I confronted him yesterday, he admitted that he did cash the check. What legal recourse do I have?My estranged husband stole and cashed a check from my mailbox from my insurance company. Isn't that illegal?
My advice call BCBS and explain that you never received the check and that you believe it was stolen, they will check their records and send you a copy of the check. Once you see the copy of the cashed check, you will need to call them again and tell them it is not your signature. BCBS will then send you an Affidavit form that you will need to fill out which certifies that you did not cash the check--the form will probably have to be notarized. Once you submit this form, BCBS will send you another check replacing the $1,152.80. They will take care of investigating who cashed the check and taking whatever legal steps are necessary to recover their money. This may or may not include referring the person who illegally cashed the check to the authorities. You do not need to call the police or do any of these other things. BCBS will take care of doing this only if they deem it necessary.
I have seen this happen a few times in my practice (i.e. where different family members helped themselves to insurance company checks). In the last few cases, the insurance company collected the funds back from the party who took them and did not refer it to the authorities.
I hope this helps. Good Luck!My estranged husband stole and cashed a check from my mailbox from my insurance company. Isn't that illegal?
ok, you will need to contact BCBS and ask that they send copy of the check to you; front and back; they issued, so will have copy.
also; contact the provider and explained what happened; by now, should be getting mail/phone calls on payment; they may hold off pestering you pending resolution.
file a police report; need this;
question who cashed check? since this check issued to you personally, you are female and he is a male, so did he have a female cash the check for him? most places ask for photo id;
also; why would BCBS mail you a check to pay for services to a provider? why didn't they pay them direct???? that does not make sense.
contact a lawyer for legal advice;
may have a claim for;
1; your husband or someone else who helped cashed check
2; the place where the check was cashed
3; BCBS; issued check to you personally vs the provider direct?
good luck
Yes, it is illegal to steal mail.
Yes, it is illegal to cash a check that is payable to someone else.
Option 1:
Have him reimburse you.
Option 2:
Tell Blue Cross Blue Shield that you did not cash or deposit this check and believe that it may have been stolen. They will check their records and find that it was cashed. Ask them for a copy of the canceled check. When you receive it, tell them that the endorsement signature on the back of the check is not yours and that they should demand restitution from the bank that honored the check with that endorsement and should then issue a new check to you. This will take awhile. Do not hold your breathe.
Option 3:
Get divorced. Ask the divorce court to make him pay you $1152.80, plus whatever alimony or child support you would otherwise receive.
Option 4:
Notify the United States postal inspection service and the police. Have him arrested.
You need to sue him in small claims court. There is no lawyer necessary, and you need to be able to prove he actually stole and cashed the check. You can press charges against him first for theft if you wish, but don't expect that to go anywhere...it's a small amount of money for most police departments to investigate.
You need more than ';your word against his,'; for evidence. Get a copy of the check and have a handwriting expert attest to the validity of the endorsement.
go to the police and make a report then get a copy of the check from the bank, you will need copies of both front and back. I would also go to the place where he cashed the check and find out why they cashed it since it was made out to you! they should never cash checks that are made out to someone else. you should find out if you can sue them!
Call the police department and report it. It is illegal to cash someone else's check. Call the insurance company and tell them you know who cashed the check illegally and you want them to reissue it.
This was your money and not his. Don't let someone get away with this theft.
Yes, it's illegal.
Your first step, is to notify the police, and file charges against him. Once he is prosecuted, then you can ask BCBS to reissue the check, and THEY will take over prosecution.
If the check was made out to you, it certainly is. You should not only notify the local police but also the Postal Service inspector.
tell him to pay up or you will call the cops. He also owes any late fees that might have accrued
Tell him he needs to give you the money back or he's going to jail!
My advice call BCBS and explain that you never received the check and that you believe it was stolen, they will check their records and send you a copy of the check. Once you see the copy of the cashed check, you will need to call them again and tell them it is not your signature. BCBS will then send you an Affidavit form that you will need to fill out which certifies that you did not cash the check--the form will probably have to be notarized. Once you submit this form, BCBS will send you another check replacing the $1,152.80. They will take care of investigating who cashed the check and taking whatever legal steps are necessary to recover their money. This may or may not include referring the person who illegally cashed the check to the authorities. You do not need to call the police or do any of these other things. BCBS will take care of doing this only if they deem it necessary.
I have seen this happen a few times in my practice (i.e. where different family members helped themselves to insurance company checks). In the last few cases, the insurance company collected the funds back from the party who took them and did not refer it to the authorities.
I hope this helps. Good Luck!My estranged husband stole and cashed a check from my mailbox from my insurance company. Isn't that illegal?
ok, you will need to contact BCBS and ask that they send copy of the check to you; front and back; they issued, so will have copy.
also; contact the provider and explained what happened; by now, should be getting mail/phone calls on payment; they may hold off pestering you pending resolution.
file a police report; need this;
question who cashed check? since this check issued to you personally, you are female and he is a male, so did he have a female cash the check for him? most places ask for photo id;
also; why would BCBS mail you a check to pay for services to a provider? why didn't they pay them direct???? that does not make sense.
contact a lawyer for legal advice;
may have a claim for;
1; your husband or someone else who helped cashed check
2; the place where the check was cashed
3; BCBS; issued check to you personally vs the provider direct?
good luck
Yes, it is illegal to steal mail.
Yes, it is illegal to cash a check that is payable to someone else.
Option 1:
Have him reimburse you.
Option 2:
Tell Blue Cross Blue Shield that you did not cash or deposit this check and believe that it may have been stolen. They will check their records and find that it was cashed. Ask them for a copy of the canceled check. When you receive it, tell them that the endorsement signature on the back of the check is not yours and that they should demand restitution from the bank that honored the check with that endorsement and should then issue a new check to you. This will take awhile. Do not hold your breathe.
Option 3:
Get divorced. Ask the divorce court to make him pay you $1152.80, plus whatever alimony or child support you would otherwise receive.
Option 4:
Notify the United States postal inspection service and the police. Have him arrested.
You need to sue him in small claims court. There is no lawyer necessary, and you need to be able to prove he actually stole and cashed the check. You can press charges against him first for theft if you wish, but don't expect that to go anywhere...it's a small amount of money for most police departments to investigate.
You need more than ';your word against his,'; for evidence. Get a copy of the check and have a handwriting expert attest to the validity of the endorsement.
go to the police and make a report then get a copy of the check from the bank, you will need copies of both front and back. I would also go to the place where he cashed the check and find out why they cashed it since it was made out to you! they should never cash checks that are made out to someone else. you should find out if you can sue them!
Call the police department and report it. It is illegal to cash someone else's check. Call the insurance company and tell them you know who cashed the check illegally and you want them to reissue it.
This was your money and not his. Don't let someone get away with this theft.
Yes, it's illegal.
Your first step, is to notify the police, and file charges against him. Once he is prosecuted, then you can ask BCBS to reissue the check, and THEY will take over prosecution.
If the check was made out to you, it certainly is. You should not only notify the local police but also the Postal Service inspector.
tell him to pay up or you will call the cops. He also owes any late fees that might have accrued
Tell him he needs to give you the money back or he's going to jail!
How do I file taxes when I worked and husband rcvd workers comp all year? Can I claim him as a dependent? ?
He received benefits Jan-Aug, until they stopped him. He did not work for the entire year. I am a student but receive grants and loans. We have a child and at some point I paid for child care. We rent and pay electric for heat. How do I file my taxes this year to get the most return?How do I file taxes when I worked and husband rcvd workers comp all year? Can I claim him as a dependent? ?
So, did either one of you have a W-2 at all?
If you had zero other income, the only remaining question is whether your grants covered your tuition or if any of the grant money was used for living expenses (which makes it taxable).
If your income from W-2s is $0 and your taxable grant money is less than $17,900, you don't have a filing requirement and wouldn't get a refund anyway....
So, did either one of you have a W-2 at all?
If you had zero other income, the only remaining question is whether your grants covered your tuition or if any of the grant money was used for living expenses (which makes it taxable).
If your income from W-2s is $0 and your taxable grant money is less than $17,900, you don't have a filing requirement and wouldn't get a refund anyway....
Help! my husband buys used panties online and then wears them. How can I ever have sex with him again?
we have been married for years, have children and grandchildren, I feel like I am to old to find someone else, I don't want to be alone for the rest of my life..any advice?Help! my husband buys used panties online and then wears them. How can I ever have sex with him again?
Did you just find this out? I could see how you would feel blind sided.
Honestly its a strange fetish but I don't think its something I would leave my husband over. I could see if it were taking over his life. (I.e. he wouldn't get out of bed or leave the house with out the mentioned panties)
If I were in this situation I would bring it up to him, and let him know that its something that I was uncomfortable with. However, if he is feeling comfortable enough to confide this ';secret fetish'; with you, maybe this is a good chance to explore YOUR inner sexual desire. This could open a door to a totally new, rejuvenated sex life.
But on the other hand if you are totally uncomfortable with it, you are NEVER too old to find someone else. My great grand mother used match.com, and found and incredible man, who makes her very happy.
I hope this helps!!Help! my husband buys used panties online and then wears them. How can I ever have sex with him again?
yea, this is a serious matter! this also sounds like a fetish that maybe he hasn't let you in on, or maybe it's fulfilling his fantasy of other women. I had a friend who was just dating her man for years and he did this same thing excpet he kept them from previous gf's. come ot find out-the reason he was keeping them was because he fantasized about sleeping with other women but didnt want to ruin his relationship by doing so....so he would keep the underwear to make him feel like he was still part of another woman but still being faithful to his other half. I think you should talk to your husband and let him know that you dont like the things he is doing and that your open to all his side of the story and if he refuses then he suffers your consequences. you never know he might open up to you if you are supportive in getting down to the bottom of this problem. hope this helps!
That is one thing I'm not sure I could get over. I myself love a man in a nice pair of mountain boots and flannel jackets. Sounds like your husband is having some issues finding himself right now. As far as you being afraid (that's what your saying in essence) of being on your own, wouldn't it be much better than hurting all the time because your wondering why your husband just can't be happy w/you anymore. You go out there and make yourself happy. You can do it IF THAT'S WHAT YOU WANT!. If not, then go to counseling and try to work through the issue of why it's happening NOW.
Just tell him how you feel calmly but if you seriously can't take it anymore give him an ultimatum. And wouldn't you rather live alone happily for the rest of your life then be in an unhappy marriage. By the way your never too old to find some one. Good Luck.
There are worst things in the world you know, Let him play his game. Its a little strange, but it could be worse. He will take them off to have sex I would think.
Are you serious?????????
frigging throw them out how disgraceful
expose him to people he knows
he deserves it
Your husband has serious issues and is wasting a lot of money. He needs to see a therapist.
You are never too old to get out!!!!!! Face it....you're married to a FAG!
Besides that strange%26gt; There is a real health issue%26gt; Your never to old for fun%26gt;
Did you just find this out? I could see how you would feel blind sided.
Honestly its a strange fetish but I don't think its something I would leave my husband over. I could see if it were taking over his life. (I.e. he wouldn't get out of bed or leave the house with out the mentioned panties)
If I were in this situation I would bring it up to him, and let him know that its something that I was uncomfortable with. However, if he is feeling comfortable enough to confide this ';secret fetish'; with you, maybe this is a good chance to explore YOUR inner sexual desire. This could open a door to a totally new, rejuvenated sex life.
But on the other hand if you are totally uncomfortable with it, you are NEVER too old to find someone else. My great grand mother used match.com, and found and incredible man, who makes her very happy.
I hope this helps!!Help! my husband buys used panties online and then wears them. How can I ever have sex with him again?
yea, this is a serious matter! this also sounds like a fetish that maybe he hasn't let you in on, or maybe it's fulfilling his fantasy of other women. I had a friend who was just dating her man for years and he did this same thing excpet he kept them from previous gf's. come ot find out-the reason he was keeping them was because he fantasized about sleeping with other women but didnt want to ruin his relationship by doing so....so he would keep the underwear to make him feel like he was still part of another woman but still being faithful to his other half. I think you should talk to your husband and let him know that you dont like the things he is doing and that your open to all his side of the story and if he refuses then he suffers your consequences. you never know he might open up to you if you are supportive in getting down to the bottom of this problem. hope this helps!
That is one thing I'm not sure I could get over. I myself love a man in a nice pair of mountain boots and flannel jackets. Sounds like your husband is having some issues finding himself right now. As far as you being afraid (that's what your saying in essence) of being on your own, wouldn't it be much better than hurting all the time because your wondering why your husband just can't be happy w/you anymore. You go out there and make yourself happy. You can do it IF THAT'S WHAT YOU WANT!. If not, then go to counseling and try to work through the issue of why it's happening NOW.
Just tell him how you feel calmly but if you seriously can't take it anymore give him an ultimatum. And wouldn't you rather live alone happily for the rest of your life then be in an unhappy marriage. By the way your never too old to find some one. Good Luck.
There are worst things in the world you know, Let him play his game. Its a little strange, but it could be worse. He will take them off to have sex I would think.
Are you serious?????????
frigging throw them out how disgraceful
expose him to people he knows
he deserves it
Your husband has serious issues and is wasting a lot of money. He needs to see a therapist.
You are never too old to get out!!!!!! Face it....you're married to a FAG!
Besides that strange%26gt; There is a real health issue%26gt; Your never to old for fun%26gt;
Does a husband love his wife more or differently after children?
I wondered, does a husband love his wife more or differently after baring children?Does a husband love his wife more or differently after children?
Love is not one of those things where there is a set quantity.
So when kids come there is more love. The wife doesn't loose her share. At times it is more as he knows she is the 'mothe of his kids' and this is more than before.
Plus, it is different as he sees he as 'the mother' now.
It is the wife's job to remind him that she is 'the mother' but when the lights are out and the bedroom door is locked that she is all or more than the girl he dated and married. This is where women fall down.
BCDoes a husband love his wife more or differently after children?
hmm that depends on the man and how the r/ship is after..
some seem to get mean cause the woman is no longer ';tight and fit'; some love their wife more cause they see that she is the mother of their child.. it's weird..
it really depends on ur partner;there r husband who eventually change after having children,he see his wife's attention is only the children,and get jealous,and start having problems in marriage.
Usually more after ';bearing'; children.
I think so. It takes a toll on your marriage but it also brings other joys.
It evolves in to being a family.
More and differently, since the wife became a mother.
I think more. It's made my husband and I more solid than ever...there is a special joy in watching your partner evolve to a great parent!
he should love her more, the kids he loves and is proud of but no human comes before his wife.
God I really hope so.
That's all I'm saying.
I loved her more afterward.
both equally
he says that he will but i doubt that
He loves her much more..... for a little while!
more for me...less for her...she left...i was crushed
Love is not one of those things where there is a set quantity.
So when kids come there is more love. The wife doesn't loose her share. At times it is more as he knows she is the 'mothe of his kids' and this is more than before.
Plus, it is different as he sees he as 'the mother' now.
It is the wife's job to remind him that she is 'the mother' but when the lights are out and the bedroom door is locked that she is all or more than the girl he dated and married. This is where women fall down.
BCDoes a husband love his wife more or differently after children?
hmm that depends on the man and how the r/ship is after..
some seem to get mean cause the woman is no longer ';tight and fit'; some love their wife more cause they see that she is the mother of their child.. it's weird..
it really depends on ur partner;there r husband who eventually change after having children,he see his wife's attention is only the children,and get jealous,and start having problems in marriage.
Usually more after ';bearing'; children.
I think so. It takes a toll on your marriage but it also brings other joys.
It evolves in to being a family.
More and differently, since the wife became a mother.
I think more. It's made my husband and I more solid than ever...there is a special joy in watching your partner evolve to a great parent!
he should love her more, the kids he loves and is proud of but no human comes before his wife.
God I really hope so.
That's all I'm saying.
I loved her more afterward.
both equally
he says that he will but i doubt that
He loves her much more..... for a little while!
more for me...less for her...she left...i was crushed
How do I approach my children with the fact that I am in fact a transexual. My husband already knows.?
I got a sex change about twenty-something years ago and only myself, parents, siblings, and hubby know. I think it is time I must tell my children the truth. How should I approach them with the subject?
Thank you!How do I approach my children with the fact that I am in fact a transexual. My husband already knows.?
Responsible mom of four is your Y!A name, but in your profile it says you have three kids. It also says you hate trolls...but I think you are a troll.How do I approach my children with the fact that I am in fact a transexual. My husband already knows.?
You could not possibly have had a sex change over 20 years ago and have teenage children.............And you should not be answering any questions about parenting either!!
This is exactly what I was talking about when I asked if people should be penalized for asking fake questions just to amuse them self!!!
just tell them straight forward. that its how you felt. ps im not a parent im doing a college report on violent video games and the effect they have on the youth im only 18
just be honest with them...it may freak them out at first, but you will just have to ease their fears...btw, I really have to wonder just how much a responsible mom you really are because I seen that you posted a question about giving your son a b*** j**...that is just sick and wrong in my opinion, and I dont understand why you would want to come on Y!A and waste everyone's time with your nonsence...most everyone here is here because they have genuine questions to ask and try to be helpful to others by answering their questions to the best of their knowledge...if this is all a joke, please take your bullshit elsewhere and stop wasting our time...
Then you don't have children, unless your their father.
hi i think firstly u shud educate them with the subject, and explain that it is not bad thing to be transexual, then u explain ur condition that made you change your sex...if they are big enough they might understand...hopt this helps
look at some of he/she's other questions .
this person is a TROLL
Thank you!How do I approach my children with the fact that I am in fact a transexual. My husband already knows.?
Responsible mom of four is your Y!A name, but in your profile it says you have three kids. It also says you hate trolls...but I think you are a troll.How do I approach my children with the fact that I am in fact a transexual. My husband already knows.?
You could not possibly have had a sex change over 20 years ago and have teenage children.............And you should not be answering any questions about parenting either!!
This is exactly what I was talking about when I asked if people should be penalized for asking fake questions just to amuse them self!!!
just tell them straight forward. that its how you felt. ps im not a parent im doing a college report on violent video games and the effect they have on the youth im only 18
just be honest with them...it may freak them out at first, but you will just have to ease their fears...btw, I really have to wonder just how much a responsible mom you really are because I seen that you posted a question about giving your son a b*** j**...that is just sick and wrong in my opinion, and I dont understand why you would want to come on Y!A and waste everyone's time with your nonsence...most everyone here is here because they have genuine questions to ask and try to be helpful to others by answering their questions to the best of their knowledge...if this is all a joke, please take your bullshit elsewhere and stop wasting our time...
Then you don't have children, unless your their father.
hi i think firstly u shud educate them with the subject, and explain that it is not bad thing to be transexual, then u explain ur condition that made you change your sex...if they are big enough they might understand...hopt this helps
look at some of he/she's other questions .
this person is a TROLL
Will my husband get to come home from christmas if he graduates from boot camp Dec 14?
My husband is in bootcamp right now. He graduates December 14th will he be allowed to come home for christmas since hes suppose to go to school after that. Do schools close for christmas in the navy???Will my husband get to come home from christmas if he graduates from boot camp Dec 14?
The bad news is that, unfortunately, liberty and leave are totally up to the Navy. It depends upon their need of his skills or expertise. It also depends on his chain of command.
The good news is that he presently has minimal skills and practically no skills in whatever rating he's striking for -- specialty for which he's going to ';A'; school. Most schools are not considered particularly ';critical'; endeavors -- though those skills the schools teach may be so considered -- the schools tend to ';close down'; on major holidays such as the Christmas - New Years week (or so). That's so the instructors can spend that time with their families -- and, as a result, so can the trainees.
So, he may be home for Christmas.
In my experience (25 years in the Navy), I was able to get home for about half those Christmases. But when I went in, Boot Camp was more than twice as long as it is now, and we were given two weeks ';Boot Leave'; after recruit training was completed and before we had to report to our ';A'; school.
The only way you're going to find out for sure is (1) through him -- when he finds out, he'll let you know, or (2) by checking with Great Lakes -- not advised, or (3) contacting his ';A'; school -- definitely not advised. I mention (2) and (3) to caution you against contacting his chain of command. That's absolutely the last thing you ever want to do. At best, he'll get a whole lot of teasing. At worst, he could get into a little trouble -- not because you pestered his chain of command, but because he failed to keep you adequately informed.Will my husband get to come home from christmas if he graduates from boot camp Dec 14?
im not sure about the navy but when i was in tech school i had two weeks off. it was called exodus. i had to take leave and that time was borrowed from future time. meaning what leave time i earned later on was used to pay off the leave debt i had. you still have to pay for you way home though. but for the most part you have to get used to the idea that your husband will not be home or have holidays or birthdays off. there is no guarantee for any time off. you have to remember that the needs of the military come first before anything else.
All training in CONUS stops for Christmas and the only people who are still working are people in critical jobs and people who are outside of the US. More than likely he will be allowed to go on leave after basic but he might be required to sign in at his AIT first. He would have to talk to his DIs to see if he can go on leave or not after basic.
The navy like the army has Christmas Exodus. That is more a less a two week period where the school environment stops and they send the soldiers home. So yes he should be able to come home for Christmas...provided he has the money to do so.
He should, right after bootcamp they will usually go to their station of training, im guessing hes not army because we do basic not boot camp. Usually during Xmas most of the schools shut down so most military personnel will be give a chance for leave.
Sometimes when you get done camp you can go on leave before going to tech school. Depends on Uncle sam. But most times its after tech school. Learn to do without him on the holidays.
My experience is Army and unless the military has changed drastically, a person goes from Basic directly to Advanced Individual Training. No break in between, sorry.
Depends on the school. Some schools close for Christmas Break, and they'll given an opportunity to take leave to go home.
Depends on if they are in a war zone etc, if not I think they will probably given leave.
He has AIT right after, there's a chance he might not. I'm really sorry if he doesn't.maybelline matte lipstick
The bad news is that, unfortunately, liberty and leave are totally up to the Navy. It depends upon their need of his skills or expertise. It also depends on his chain of command.
The good news is that he presently has minimal skills and practically no skills in whatever rating he's striking for -- specialty for which he's going to ';A'; school. Most schools are not considered particularly ';critical'; endeavors -- though those skills the schools teach may be so considered -- the schools tend to ';close down'; on major holidays such as the Christmas - New Years week (or so). That's so the instructors can spend that time with their families -- and, as a result, so can the trainees.
So, he may be home for Christmas.
In my experience (25 years in the Navy), I was able to get home for about half those Christmases. But when I went in, Boot Camp was more than twice as long as it is now, and we were given two weeks ';Boot Leave'; after recruit training was completed and before we had to report to our ';A'; school.
The only way you're going to find out for sure is (1) through him -- when he finds out, he'll let you know, or (2) by checking with Great Lakes -- not advised, or (3) contacting his ';A'; school -- definitely not advised. I mention (2) and (3) to caution you against contacting his chain of command. That's absolutely the last thing you ever want to do. At best, he'll get a whole lot of teasing. At worst, he could get into a little trouble -- not because you pestered his chain of command, but because he failed to keep you adequately informed.Will my husband get to come home from christmas if he graduates from boot camp Dec 14?
im not sure about the navy but when i was in tech school i had two weeks off. it was called exodus. i had to take leave and that time was borrowed from future time. meaning what leave time i earned later on was used to pay off the leave debt i had. you still have to pay for you way home though. but for the most part you have to get used to the idea that your husband will not be home or have holidays or birthdays off. there is no guarantee for any time off. you have to remember that the needs of the military come first before anything else.
All training in CONUS stops for Christmas and the only people who are still working are people in critical jobs and people who are outside of the US. More than likely he will be allowed to go on leave after basic but he might be required to sign in at his AIT first. He would have to talk to his DIs to see if he can go on leave or not after basic.
The navy like the army has Christmas Exodus. That is more a less a two week period where the school environment stops and they send the soldiers home. So yes he should be able to come home for Christmas...provided he has the money to do so.
He should, right after bootcamp they will usually go to their station of training, im guessing hes not army because we do basic not boot camp. Usually during Xmas most of the schools shut down so most military personnel will be give a chance for leave.
Sometimes when you get done camp you can go on leave before going to tech school. Depends on Uncle sam. But most times its after tech school. Learn to do without him on the holidays.
My experience is Army and unless the military has changed drastically, a person goes from Basic directly to Advanced Individual Training. No break in between, sorry.
Depends on the school. Some schools close for Christmas Break, and they'll given an opportunity to take leave to go home.
Depends on if they are in a war zone etc, if not I think they will probably given leave.
He has AIT right after, there's a chance he might not. I'm really sorry if he doesn't.
If a husband is physically abusive and then stops hitting his wife, will the wife always be afraid?
Assuming he has stopped hitting his wife for an extended period of time (years), without professional help, and still remains verbally abusive, do you think the wife could ever get over her fear and reach a point where she thinks, ';I don't have to be afraid; he'll never hit me again';?
Also assuming the physical abusive was somewhat frequent, serious, and required legal and medical intervention.If a husband is physically abusive and then stops hitting his wife, will the wife always be afraid?
I was hit by a previous boyfriend, I still to this day unintentionally flinch away from my hubby. Or stay out of sight when he is angry, this man has never laid a hand on me it's just survival instict now I guess.If a husband is physically abusive and then stops hitting his wife, will the wife always be afraid?
Nope, if he hit his wife for an extended period of time, then stopped,but is still verbally abusive, he may ';hit'; again at any time. He may never hit you again, but why take that risk? Even the verbal abuse affects you mentally, and physically, and I know you can still see and feel inside the times he did hit you, it is hard to forget that. Verbal abuse can be just as bad.
If I couldn't talk to this man about the verbal abuse, and end it completely, I would try to peacefully leave him, but give him that chance if you love him. Keep your plans to yourself till you see if things will change. You are the only one that can take care of yourself in this world, it will be tough to do, but you won't be living with verbal abuse, and there won't be the chance that he will hit you again. There is a freedom and satisfaction in escaping an abuser.
Once an abuser, always an abuser.
She should get out, no matter for what period of time he stops for, sooner or later, something will ';set him off';, and he will start abusing again.
Get out, go to a woman's shelter, and leave him, save your life, he is dangerous.
By staying in that kind of relationship, you are just asking for trouble.
Please get out.
I think she should never be afraid again. I think I'd get the h*ll out of there and never look back. Even if the physical violence has stopped, the verbal abuse is just as frightening. No one wants to be around a hot tempered foul mouthed @ss all the time. You never know when you'll say something that pushes him over the edge. Everyone has a breaking point. I recommend not being around to discover his. YIKES! Run fast and far my friend.
Depends on the individual. It would be common for someone to eventually lose the fear, or much of it, if the behavior ceased...however some would always fear it, knowing that it had happened in the past and could easily happen again.
She'd be more wise to leave him, but some women have more emotional/mental issues than their abusers and stay. It's a shame.
The only way to truly heal from abuse is to be removed from the abuser, get therapy and heal. A lot of domestic violence victims live in denial about how serious the abuse really is..that is why they need to see for themselves that they are victims, need counseling and healing and that they need to remove themselves from the abusive relationship..
I agree, she will never get over it.
My fiance is the calmest, most soft spoken person I know, and would never dream of hitting any woman, let alone me.
And when we're fighting, and he raises his arm to (scratch his face, pet the dog, get a drink) I flinch. Thanks to my ex.
Says it hurts his feelings, but I really, truly can't help it.
I think if he truly stopped, that she would eventually leave that guy and find one that hits her because that is what she is used to and because she is sick too for letting her husband hit on her in the first place.
Eventually he will hit her again...she'll just give him a ';good reason.'; It may take 25 or 30 years, but he'll do it again. Time to bail out before it happens. There are too many good guys out there to keep someone who is abusive.
Yes, she will always be afraid.
To this day whenever someone around me is arguing or fighting and they move quick by me, my heart starts pounding and I jerk backwards.
why would she still be with this son-of-a-snitch!
Verbal abuse is sometimes worse than physical
dont make excuses for this man!!!
Her problem is she has low self esteem and feels like there is no way out. She's scared to go on and depend on herself.
Breaks my heart!
He is still abusive if its verbal. She will always be afraid since he hurt her bad enough to seek medical attention. He could snap again, will be in the back of her mind forever.
Yes. Even if she leaves him she'll be afraid of the next man she's with wether he hits her or not.
Nope, the wife will always be afraid! Verbal abuse is just as bad!
She will never get over it. She is stupid for staying with him. He should be in jail and she should move on. Maybe he shoulda smacked some sense into her....
Why should she trust him? Just because a volcano has gone dormant for awhile doesn't mean it will never explode again.
weak man to hit a woman.
should have left the first time you were hit.
Also assuming the physical abusive was somewhat frequent, serious, and required legal and medical intervention.If a husband is physically abusive and then stops hitting his wife, will the wife always be afraid?
I was hit by a previous boyfriend, I still to this day unintentionally flinch away from my hubby. Or stay out of sight when he is angry, this man has never laid a hand on me it's just survival instict now I guess.If a husband is physically abusive and then stops hitting his wife, will the wife always be afraid?
Nope, if he hit his wife for an extended period of time, then stopped,but is still verbally abusive, he may ';hit'; again at any time. He may never hit you again, but why take that risk? Even the verbal abuse affects you mentally, and physically, and I know you can still see and feel inside the times he did hit you, it is hard to forget that. Verbal abuse can be just as bad.
If I couldn't talk to this man about the verbal abuse, and end it completely, I would try to peacefully leave him, but give him that chance if you love him. Keep your plans to yourself till you see if things will change. You are the only one that can take care of yourself in this world, it will be tough to do, but you won't be living with verbal abuse, and there won't be the chance that he will hit you again. There is a freedom and satisfaction in escaping an abuser.
Once an abuser, always an abuser.
She should get out, no matter for what period of time he stops for, sooner or later, something will ';set him off';, and he will start abusing again.
Get out, go to a woman's shelter, and leave him, save your life, he is dangerous.
By staying in that kind of relationship, you are just asking for trouble.
Please get out.
I think she should never be afraid again. I think I'd get the h*ll out of there and never look back. Even if the physical violence has stopped, the verbal abuse is just as frightening. No one wants to be around a hot tempered foul mouthed @ss all the time. You never know when you'll say something that pushes him over the edge. Everyone has a breaking point. I recommend not being around to discover his. YIKES! Run fast and far my friend.
Depends on the individual. It would be common for someone to eventually lose the fear, or much of it, if the behavior ceased...however some would always fear it, knowing that it had happened in the past and could easily happen again.
She'd be more wise to leave him, but some women have more emotional/mental issues than their abusers and stay. It's a shame.
The only way to truly heal from abuse is to be removed from the abuser, get therapy and heal. A lot of domestic violence victims live in denial about how serious the abuse really is..that is why they need to see for themselves that they are victims, need counseling and healing and that they need to remove themselves from the abusive relationship..
I agree, she will never get over it.
My fiance is the calmest, most soft spoken person I know, and would never dream of hitting any woman, let alone me.
And when we're fighting, and he raises his arm to (scratch his face, pet the dog, get a drink) I flinch. Thanks to my ex.
Says it hurts his feelings, but I really, truly can't help it.
I think if he truly stopped, that she would eventually leave that guy and find one that hits her because that is what she is used to and because she is sick too for letting her husband hit on her in the first place.
Eventually he will hit her again...she'll just give him a ';good reason.'; It may take 25 or 30 years, but he'll do it again. Time to bail out before it happens. There are too many good guys out there to keep someone who is abusive.
Yes, she will always be afraid.
To this day whenever someone around me is arguing or fighting and they move quick by me, my heart starts pounding and I jerk backwards.
why would she still be with this son-of-a-snitch!
Verbal abuse is sometimes worse than physical
dont make excuses for this man!!!
Her problem is she has low self esteem and feels like there is no way out. She's scared to go on and depend on herself.
Breaks my heart!
He is still abusive if its verbal. She will always be afraid since he hurt her bad enough to seek medical attention. He could snap again, will be in the back of her mind forever.
Yes. Even if she leaves him she'll be afraid of the next man she's with wether he hits her or not.
Nope, the wife will always be afraid! Verbal abuse is just as bad!
She will never get over it. She is stupid for staying with him. He should be in jail and she should move on. Maybe he shoulda smacked some sense into her....
Why should she trust him? Just because a volcano has gone dormant for awhile doesn't mean it will never explode again.
weak man to hit a woman.
should have left the first time you were hit.
What can I write in a card to my husband for when our new baby arrives?
I want something meaningful and from the heart, which is the part I will write myself, but I am after some suggestions of a verse or poem or something?? Please help if you can? Thank you.What can I write in a card to my husband for when our new baby arrives?
i did something like..
Baby, I know your going to be the best dad, I know your going to help make him(her) the best baby he(she) can be, I know your going to love him and play with him and teach him and care for him. I know your going to make being a daddy look easy to outsiders, but i also know this is going to be tough...get ready for some long nights and endless crying and tears....but together, were going to be such a great team, I can't wait to see you in action. I love you, and I couldn't have picked a better partner on this new journey in our lives, ready, set its baby TIME.What can I write in a card to my husband for when our new baby arrives?
Roses are red,
Violets are blue,
I thank you from the bottom of my heart for our beautiful baby,
Now you can deal with its poo
Add: Im glad you liked it!! On a serious note:
Just write something that comes form the bottom of your heart, I would suggest waiting until the baby is here and as soon as you lay eyes on him/her, lovely words will flow straight out of your mouth!! Good luck! X
While coming back into conciousness from my emergency c-section I slurred ';Thankyou for coming into my life just when I needed you and thankyou for giving me everything I never knew I wanted'; and in return he whispered ';Will you marry me?';
It'll all come out just as you want it, just how you want it to, good luck :)
Maybe you don't need anything too long or any verse or poem (even though the one above is great! lol).
Maybe get a card with no writing on the inside and write something simple like:
' Now there's two girls who love you'
(hoping that it's a girl!!)
As a recent father, my wife gave me a lovely photo frame with the inscription 'To a wonderful dad in the making', which I think is great.
Do you know what it's going to be?
i did something like..
Baby, I know your going to be the best dad, I know your going to help make him(her) the best baby he(she) can be, I know your going to love him and play with him and teach him and care for him. I know your going to make being a daddy look easy to outsiders, but i also know this is going to be tough...get ready for some long nights and endless crying and tears....but together, were going to be such a great team, I can't wait to see you in action. I love you, and I couldn't have picked a better partner on this new journey in our lives, ready, set its baby TIME.What can I write in a card to my husband for when our new baby arrives?
Roses are red,
Violets are blue,
I thank you from the bottom of my heart for our beautiful baby,
Now you can deal with its poo
Add: Im glad you liked it!! On a serious note:
Just write something that comes form the bottom of your heart, I would suggest waiting until the baby is here and as soon as you lay eyes on him/her, lovely words will flow straight out of your mouth!! Good luck! X
While coming back into conciousness from my emergency c-section I slurred ';Thankyou for coming into my life just when I needed you and thankyou for giving me everything I never knew I wanted'; and in return he whispered ';Will you marry me?';
It'll all come out just as you want it, just how you want it to, good luck :)
Maybe you don't need anything too long or any verse or poem (even though the one above is great! lol).
Maybe get a card with no writing on the inside and write something simple like:
' Now there's two girls who love you'
(hoping that it's a girl!!)
As a recent father, my wife gave me a lovely photo frame with the inscription 'To a wonderful dad in the making', which I think is great.
Do you know what it's going to be?
What reason would a Chaplain call you if your husband is deployed?
why would the chaplain for my husbands unit call me?????? and NOT leave a message???What reason would a Chaplain call you if your husband is deployed?
Are you good looking?What reason would a Chaplain call you if your husband is deployed?
Probally just to check up on you and see how your doing.
hes probally calling all the wives of deployed personal in the unit.
Relax. If anything bad had happened you would have people on your doorstep, not a phone call.
Might be having problems over there and needs your support..
Are you good looking?What reason would a Chaplain call you if your husband is deployed?
Probally just to check up on you and see how your doing.
hes probally calling all the wives of deployed personal in the unit.
Relax. If anything bad had happened you would have people on your doorstep, not a phone call.
Might be having problems over there and needs your support..
What is a good profession for a woman whose husband is a dentist?
writing a novel and need some creative suggestions! :)What is a good profession for a woman whose husband is a dentist?
own a candy shop.What is a good profession for a woman whose husband is a dentist?
It depends on the relationship between this woman and her husband and if there is stress between them. If there is where does it come from and does it have anything to do with their jobs? Do they spend too much time together or not enough? Either way all of your character details should come from the conflict.
It doesn't matter. What a woman does doesn't matter to her husband but more to what she wants, so it's anything. I actually would suggest also making her a dentist, so they met in dentist college or whatever. :D
Dental assistant/dentist
my dad is a dentist and my mom worked in a photo lab for kodak for many years.
Dental hygenist.
Physical theorist
whatever she wants her profession to be
cake decorator
um...Teacher or guidance councilor
A Proctologist that way te team can get them from both ends.
anything, maybe a nurse.
Yeah, one of them was right.
Own a candy shop.
LOL
nurse was the first thing that popped into my head.
own a candy shop.What is a good profession for a woman whose husband is a dentist?
It depends on the relationship between this woman and her husband and if there is stress between them. If there is where does it come from and does it have anything to do with their jobs? Do they spend too much time together or not enough? Either way all of your character details should come from the conflict.
It doesn't matter. What a woman does doesn't matter to her husband but more to what she wants, so it's anything. I actually would suggest also making her a dentist, so they met in dentist college or whatever. :D
Dental assistant/dentist
my dad is a dentist and my mom worked in a photo lab for kodak for many years.
Dental hygenist.
Physical theorist
whatever she wants her profession to be
cake decorator
um...Teacher or guidance councilor
A Proctologist that way te team can get them from both ends.
anything, maybe a nurse.
Yeah, one of them was right.
Own a candy shop.
LOL
nurse was the first thing that popped into my head.
What are different things that would prove my ex-husband is unfit to be a parent?
He is an alcohlolic, loves barely legal internet porn, takes them out of school way more then their school allows, met a girl from South Africa, brought her here to live with him and my 3 girls for a month, has really skanky people stay at their house.....stuff like this. Anything you can think of. I have to prove him and unfit father in Court if my girls have any chance of becoming good people.What are different things that would prove my ex-husband is unfit to be a parent?
Start writing everything down with dates and times. Hire a detective to follow him and get proof of his way of life.What are different things that would prove my ex-husband is unfit to be a parent?
generally speaking- a positive drug test or domestic violence is your only really hope of proving him ';unfit'; and even then he will receive supervised visits. The courts are willing to bend over backwards to make sure children have a relationship with both parents, as it is psychologically better for them.
the porn, ';skanky'; people, etc. is what he does on his own time. If you bring that up in court it will just make you look vindictive. For all you know the judge gets into a little ';barely legal'; now and then LoL
I think that is your answer right there! Holy crap! WHat a loser he is! Does he have a record? does he leave nasty emails or messages, if so record them or print them and take them to court... has he threatened you? If so u can get a PFA and there u go right there!
Start writing everything down with dates and times. Hire a detective to follow him and get proof of his way of life.What are different things that would prove my ex-husband is unfit to be a parent?
generally speaking- a positive drug test or domestic violence is your only really hope of proving him ';unfit'; and even then he will receive supervised visits. The courts are willing to bend over backwards to make sure children have a relationship with both parents, as it is psychologically better for them.
the porn, ';skanky'; people, etc. is what he does on his own time. If you bring that up in court it will just make you look vindictive. For all you know the judge gets into a little ';barely legal'; now and then LoL
I think that is your answer right there! Holy crap! WHat a loser he is! Does he have a record? does he leave nasty emails or messages, if so record them or print them and take them to court... has he threatened you? If so u can get a PFA and there u go right there!
Is it ok to call my husbands friends and ask them if they will surprise my husband for his birthday?
Husband is depressed. He doesn't do anything for anyone elses birthday so I feel bad calling his friends but he feels like no one cares about him and really wants to have fun for his birthday with out calling them to ask....? HELP. Thanks.Is it ok to call my husbands friends and ask them if they will surprise my husband for his birthday?
aw that would be such a sweet thing to do just explain to his friends whats going on and ask them to please help you help him have a good birthdayIs it ok to call my husbands friends and ask them if they will surprise my husband for his birthday?
No. Don't call anyone to plan a surprise party for a depressed persons birthday. Just plan a getaway for the two of you. For a grown man to feel depressed because no one cares about him and his birthday sounds really needy more than depressed. You have your hands full, I'm sure. Good luck and don't lean on any of his friends to give him a birthday party. The two of you go somewhere for the weekend.
Tell them that your having a surprise bithday party
Then your husband will be happy they showed up
who cares
Call them. What harm could it do?
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aw that would be such a sweet thing to do just explain to his friends whats going on and ask them to please help you help him have a good birthdayIs it ok to call my husbands friends and ask them if they will surprise my husband for his birthday?
No. Don't call anyone to plan a surprise party for a depressed persons birthday. Just plan a getaway for the two of you. For a grown man to feel depressed because no one cares about him and his birthday sounds really needy more than depressed. You have your hands full, I'm sure. Good luck and don't lean on any of his friends to give him a birthday party. The two of you go somewhere for the weekend.
Tell them that your having a surprise bithday party
Then your husband will be happy they showed up
who cares
Call them. What harm could it do?
yes
Can my husband claim me on his taxes?
We just got married 2 months ago. He is a citizen but I am not.Can my husband claim me on his taxes?
If you want you can file a joint return and get better rates. If you don't have a green card and Social Security number, you will need an individual tax ID number.Can my husband claim me on his taxes?
You file as married filing joint. It is a higher personal deduction. A spouse cannot be claimed as a dependent.
I believe you have to have a social security number in order for him to claim you, unless the laws have changed. But I would think it would be married filing jointly and you would both have to put your social security number on the tax return if he is going to claim you as an exemption.
Your husband has 3 ways to file.
1. Married filing jointly with you. $10,700 standard deduction, $6800 in exemptions and better tax rates. If you do not have an SSN or a ITIN, he would apply for one when you file. If you have any worldwide income, you would include it on the form.
2. Married filing separately without you. $5350 standard deduction, $3400 in exemption amount and not so good tax rates. If you do not have an SSN or a ITIN, he would file on paper and attach a note explaining that he isn't getting a tax benefit for you.
3. Married fiiling separately with you if you had $0 US source income. He would get $5350 standard deduction and $6800 in exemptions. Same lousy tax rates. If you do not have an SSN or a ITIN, he would have to attach form W-7 when he files.
4. If he has a minor child living with him, he *might* be able to file head of household. Too much to go into here.
what the first guy said
YES he can !!!
under the law ur husband can claim you as a deduction in tax. it does not matters wether u are a citizen or not. but the time you have been married is also consider while giving tax benefit regarding spouse. which means when ur husband files his tax , the longer u guys would have been married the more the tax benfit.
hope it helps
If you want you can file a joint return and get better rates. If you don't have a green card and Social Security number, you will need an individual tax ID number.Can my husband claim me on his taxes?
You file as married filing joint. It is a higher personal deduction. A spouse cannot be claimed as a dependent.
I believe you have to have a social security number in order for him to claim you, unless the laws have changed. But I would think it would be married filing jointly and you would both have to put your social security number on the tax return if he is going to claim you as an exemption.
Your husband has 3 ways to file.
1. Married filing jointly with you. $10,700 standard deduction, $6800 in exemptions and better tax rates. If you do not have an SSN or a ITIN, he would apply for one when you file. If you have any worldwide income, you would include it on the form.
2. Married filing separately without you. $5350 standard deduction, $3400 in exemption amount and not so good tax rates. If you do not have an SSN or a ITIN, he would file on paper and attach a note explaining that he isn't getting a tax benefit for you.
3. Married fiiling separately with you if you had $0 US source income. He would get $5350 standard deduction and $6800 in exemptions. Same lousy tax rates. If you do not have an SSN or a ITIN, he would have to attach form W-7 when he files.
4. If he has a minor child living with him, he *might* be able to file head of household. Too much to go into here.
what the first guy said
YES he can !!!
under the law ur husband can claim you as a deduction in tax. it does not matters wether u are a citizen or not. but the time you have been married is also consider while giving tax benefit regarding spouse. which means when ur husband files his tax , the longer u guys would have been married the more the tax benfit.
hope it helps
If your husband searched and replied to online ads, how would you deal with it?
If your husband searched and replied to online ads (women looking either to cheat or just wanting to be in a relationship), how would you deal with it? Is it considered cheating? Would you leave him? Oh by the way, he was caught doing this 3 seperate times. He knew full well that you were upset after the 1st time. Then repeatedley got online and searched for women.If your husband searched and replied to online ads, how would you deal with it?
divorceIf your husband searched and replied to online ads, how would you deal with it?
I am male but I must go along with the ladies here. A guy who is married looking and responding on online ads are far from good.
Perhaps a family consultation with Dr. Phil or one his colleagues should come first before a threat of divorce.
But something is very wrong if the above scenario happens.
well, i saw my husband belonged to a singles site 'looking for a discreet relationship' so i hacked in and edited his profile to say that he was morbidly obese, had a 3 inch penis and his ideal realtionship was with another man.
turns out he was only looking for porn though
I would consider him a cheating, lying, no-good, scumbag bastard.
No woman deserves that. And yes, OF COURSE it is cheating. You two need therapy first and foremost, and if he can't commit to you and honor you and be faithful to you, well, he doesn't deserve to be married.
I would be furious! Yes, it's cheating. After 3 times of this happening I'm guessing it'll happen again. If he doesn't want to work things out then I would leave.
Figure out what was being advertised that you were neglecting to offer.
I would say good bye. You deserve better and if hes been caught before then he will probably do it again. Don't waste your time when you could be with someone who wants to be with you and only you
Yes, you should leave him. He obviously doesn't respect you or your marriage.
you have to leave. it is just a matter of time before he meets one of these women.
you deserve more.
prob just looking at porn fantasizing maybe u need to spice things up
divorceIf your husband searched and replied to online ads, how would you deal with it?
I am male but I must go along with the ladies here. A guy who is married looking and responding on online ads are far from good.
Perhaps a family consultation with Dr. Phil or one his colleagues should come first before a threat of divorce.
But something is very wrong if the above scenario happens.
well, i saw my husband belonged to a singles site 'looking for a discreet relationship' so i hacked in and edited his profile to say that he was morbidly obese, had a 3 inch penis and his ideal realtionship was with another man.
turns out he was only looking for porn though
I would consider him a cheating, lying, no-good, scumbag bastard.
No woman deserves that. And yes, OF COURSE it is cheating. You two need therapy first and foremost, and if he can't commit to you and honor you and be faithful to you, well, he doesn't deserve to be married.
I would be furious! Yes, it's cheating. After 3 times of this happening I'm guessing it'll happen again. If he doesn't want to work things out then I would leave.
Figure out what was being advertised that you were neglecting to offer.
I would say good bye. You deserve better and if hes been caught before then he will probably do it again. Don't waste your time when you could be with someone who wants to be with you and only you
Yes, you should leave him. He obviously doesn't respect you or your marriage.
you have to leave. it is just a matter of time before he meets one of these women.
you deserve more.
prob just looking at porn fantasizing maybe u need to spice things up
Does a husband have the right to forbid his wife from working?
This is bothering me, I have these neighbors who are friends of ours.
Not close friends but we have coffee sometimes together, today she told me that her husband won't let her work.
I asked why she said that he doesn't want people thinking that were behind in bills and our life is just fine. They are fine she says but her kids are grown and she has extra time on her hands. All she wants she says is to get out. Since staying home she has gained more than 50lbs. Who's right her or her husband?Does a husband have the right to forbid his wife from working?
If her kids are grown and are not being raised anymore then she is right, she has done her job and raised the family, now it's her time to go find what makes her happy.
If the kids where still little and needed the attention and love of their mother, I would say the father is right.Does a husband have the right to forbid his wife from working?
The husband is ridiculous for not wanting his wife to work. It sounds like her reasons for wanting to work are legit. He needs to stop worrying what people will think. I bet that would be the last thing on somebody's mind that they are behind on their bills. There are other reasons for wanting to get a job. He shouldnt be controlling her to that extent, but if they have been married for a long time, then he has most likely controlled her throughout their entire marraige and i doubt things will change now. Just dont let her marriage influence you (if your married). I would really think twice about taking advice from her too.
I don't think he should forbid her, she should be able to work when she wants to even their life is fine. Money doesn't last very long it comes and go. Maybe her husband is a jelousy man that's why he doesnt' want her to work but just stay home or he just want someone to serve him when he gets home after work.
From the man's point of view, it sounds like a ';pride issue';. If it really about not letting others think they have financial troubles, then your neighbor can still get out of the house and volunteer her time to her favorite cause. She will feel better about herself and probably that weight will just find it's way off her! If the issue is one of control, then she has a completely different issue.
No one has the right to oppress or purposely make anyone unhappy. However she allows herself to be treated this way and as long as she continues her husband will do it. The whole ';not being allowed'; to work issue is probably not even the half of what is going on in that house.
In the U.S. a husband can not forbid a woman to work outside the home if she wants to. However if your friend does it may cause problems in her marriage. She needs to discuss this with her husband rather than you, obviously they have problems with communication.
She should be able to work if she wants to.My husband was also like that but he was afraid if i went to work i would fined someone else.May be that's what this is.
Her life is not her husbands' ... and the husband is wrong.
Still, I advise you to stay out of it. It may become worse if he finds out she told somebody.
Her husband is wrong.
I truly believe the fault is on her for letting the relationship be ruled by the husband. See, when one commits to a relationship it should be layed out specifically on communication. If the two would have agreed to make the decisions together it would be just that. But , in her case she let the husband make the decisions and choices. She should have set her foot down and made it a point that's it goes both ways.
Which in her case its not a choice its a command (that the husband wants).We as adults can make our own choices.But, when it comes to being in a relationship and you both come to agreement then that's it. But if there is disagreement and the husband takes control, well its pointless. The man will always want to make the choices and decisions.
If she really wants to get out of the house ,she would have . But if she has a controlling husband .She doesn't have much luck.
Have a good day.
Not close friends but we have coffee sometimes together, today she told me that her husband won't let her work.
I asked why she said that he doesn't want people thinking that were behind in bills and our life is just fine. They are fine she says but her kids are grown and she has extra time on her hands. All she wants she says is to get out. Since staying home she has gained more than 50lbs. Who's right her or her husband?Does a husband have the right to forbid his wife from working?
If her kids are grown and are not being raised anymore then she is right, she has done her job and raised the family, now it's her time to go find what makes her happy.
If the kids where still little and needed the attention and love of their mother, I would say the father is right.Does a husband have the right to forbid his wife from working?
The husband is ridiculous for not wanting his wife to work. It sounds like her reasons for wanting to work are legit. He needs to stop worrying what people will think. I bet that would be the last thing on somebody's mind that they are behind on their bills. There are other reasons for wanting to get a job. He shouldnt be controlling her to that extent, but if they have been married for a long time, then he has most likely controlled her throughout their entire marraige and i doubt things will change now. Just dont let her marriage influence you (if your married). I would really think twice about taking advice from her too.
I don't think he should forbid her, she should be able to work when she wants to even their life is fine. Money doesn't last very long it comes and go. Maybe her husband is a jelousy man that's why he doesnt' want her to work but just stay home or he just want someone to serve him when he gets home after work.
From the man's point of view, it sounds like a ';pride issue';. If it really about not letting others think they have financial troubles, then your neighbor can still get out of the house and volunteer her time to her favorite cause. She will feel better about herself and probably that weight will just find it's way off her! If the issue is one of control, then she has a completely different issue.
No one has the right to oppress or purposely make anyone unhappy. However she allows herself to be treated this way and as long as she continues her husband will do it. The whole ';not being allowed'; to work issue is probably not even the half of what is going on in that house.
In the U.S. a husband can not forbid a woman to work outside the home if she wants to. However if your friend does it may cause problems in her marriage. She needs to discuss this with her husband rather than you, obviously they have problems with communication.
She should be able to work if she wants to.My husband was also like that but he was afraid if i went to work i would fined someone else.May be that's what this is.
Her life is not her husbands' ... and the husband is wrong.
Still, I advise you to stay out of it. It may become worse if he finds out she told somebody.
Her husband is wrong.
I truly believe the fault is on her for letting the relationship be ruled by the husband. See, when one commits to a relationship it should be layed out specifically on communication. If the two would have agreed to make the decisions together it would be just that. But , in her case she let the husband make the decisions and choices. She should have set her foot down and made it a point that's it goes both ways.
Which in her case its not a choice its a command (that the husband wants).We as adults can make our own choices.But, when it comes to being in a relationship and you both come to agreement then that's it. But if there is disagreement and the husband takes control, well its pointless. The man will always want to make the choices and decisions.
If she really wants to get out of the house ,she would have . But if she has a controlling husband .She doesn't have much luck.
Have a good day.
Would you open a letter that came to your husband in the mail?
Yesterday my husband got a letter in the mail written in girly handwriting with no self address on it. Sooo, I opened it. It turned out to be nothing, and then I kind of felt bad for opening his mail. Would you have done the same thing?Would you open a letter that came to your husband in the mail?
Yes, I open my husband's mail ALL the time, actually.
If he gets the mail, he opens my mail.
We're married, we share everything. What does it matter who opens the mail? There is no privacy (aside from bathroom privacy) in a marriage. He can open my mail whenever he wants, and I open his whenever I want. Whoever gets it first, opens it usually.
That being said, in your situation I DEFINITELY would have opened it. It would have made me very uncomfortable, and even though I totally trust him, I'd want to know what it was.
You did nothing wrong, relax. If you feel that guilty, tell him. I'm sure he won't care.Would you open a letter that came to your husband in the mail?
i have been married for 14 years, and i would never open my husbands mail, without telling him first, and he would do the same for me. where is the privacy in your marriage? we are all entitled to it, married or not. i definitely don't agree with that.
Two years ago, no.
Now, for sure.
Once trust is broken it is really, really, really hard to get it back.
As it is many bills come addressed to my husband. Since I do all the accounting (he has been known to lose bills resulting in late charges fines, etc.), long ago we agreed that I would always open these.
For the rest, they go in his mail ';basket';. Although, as I said, if I saw suspicious handwriting or a particular postmark...
If you usually open his mail then you shouldn't feel bad. If you took exception to this letter then you could feel a little bad, but I wouldn't beat yourself up to much over it.
My wife and I, who ever picks the mail up opens it all and if it is deemed important given to the other if it isn't we just toss it.
Are you aware that it is illegal to open mail that is not addressed to you?
I would NEVER disrespect my spouse by opening his mail.
I would have let him open it then asked what it was. If he had nothing to hide he would have told me or showed it to me....if he had something to hide he would be vague at which point I would ask to see it.
Honesty is the key to a successful marriage. Be straightforward to your husband and let him know what you did (and why you did it). I am sure he will understand.
Yes, because he would most likely have handed it to me and told me to.
Now?
I am not so sure. If someone has this address, I would be surprised. He claims not to live here to people around him now..
Yeah. I would probably call him though and say: ';Hey, you got a letter in the mail, I'm gonna open it for you';. What am I saying, I long onto his e-mail account and check his e-mails! lol
Sure as hubby would open mail with my name on it. 2 have become 1, there should be no reason to feel guilty.
Mary in Camden, MI
No. We respect eachother's privacy. I would however, make sure I was around when he opened it. Just so I could ';casually'; be like, hey what's that??
Every piece of mail that comes to our home is opened by me. He has no problem with it, just like I wouldn't have a problem with him opening my mail.
I respect and trust my wife too much to open her mail, and I can not imagine an instance where she would open mine.
Yes. I open most of the mail anyhow and he opens it as well. So i dont see the problem.
OF COURSE YOU DID GOOD! YOU HAVE THE RIGHT! REALLY YOU CAN'T TRUST NOBODY EVEN YOUR OWN B**T
No. It's obviously his business, and I would trust my husband enough to not snoop through his things.
If you have to open it, it means there is a problem.
yes, we open each others mail all the time. It's no biggy to us.
Yes, either should open any post.
Wow you have a green monster on your shoulder. You do not trust your husband. Better start thinking about counseling.
Been married for 27 yrs and NO I would not open something addressed to him only. Just as I would want the same respect with my mail.
My husband goes mad when i open his mail
Um yes, I would have done the exact same thing! xox
Yes, But because we open each others letters we have nothing to hide.
yea i would have..and i wouldnt have felt bad..he opens mine..
Hell yeah i would have opened it. lol
nope, i would have waited for him to open it and share it with me..
Yes, I open my husband's mail ALL the time, actually.
If he gets the mail, he opens my mail.
We're married, we share everything. What does it matter who opens the mail? There is no privacy (aside from bathroom privacy) in a marriage. He can open my mail whenever he wants, and I open his whenever I want. Whoever gets it first, opens it usually.
That being said, in your situation I DEFINITELY would have opened it. It would have made me very uncomfortable, and even though I totally trust him, I'd want to know what it was.
You did nothing wrong, relax. If you feel that guilty, tell him. I'm sure he won't care.Would you open a letter that came to your husband in the mail?
i have been married for 14 years, and i would never open my husbands mail, without telling him first, and he would do the same for me. where is the privacy in your marriage? we are all entitled to it, married or not. i definitely don't agree with that.
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Two years ago, no.
Now, for sure.
Once trust is broken it is really, really, really hard to get it back.
As it is many bills come addressed to my husband. Since I do all the accounting (he has been known to lose bills resulting in late charges fines, etc.), long ago we agreed that I would always open these.
For the rest, they go in his mail ';basket';. Although, as I said, if I saw suspicious handwriting or a particular postmark...
If you usually open his mail then you shouldn't feel bad. If you took exception to this letter then you could feel a little bad, but I wouldn't beat yourself up to much over it.
My wife and I, who ever picks the mail up opens it all and if it is deemed important given to the other if it isn't we just toss it.
Are you aware that it is illegal to open mail that is not addressed to you?
I would NEVER disrespect my spouse by opening his mail.
I would have let him open it then asked what it was. If he had nothing to hide he would have told me or showed it to me....if he had something to hide he would be vague at which point I would ask to see it.
Honesty is the key to a successful marriage. Be straightforward to your husband and let him know what you did (and why you did it). I am sure he will understand.
Yes, because he would most likely have handed it to me and told me to.
Now?
I am not so sure. If someone has this address, I would be surprised. He claims not to live here to people around him now..
Yeah. I would probably call him though and say: ';Hey, you got a letter in the mail, I'm gonna open it for you';. What am I saying, I long onto his e-mail account and check his e-mails! lol
Sure as hubby would open mail with my name on it. 2 have become 1, there should be no reason to feel guilty.
Mary in Camden, MI
No. We respect eachother's privacy. I would however, make sure I was around when he opened it. Just so I could ';casually'; be like, hey what's that??
Every piece of mail that comes to our home is opened by me. He has no problem with it, just like I wouldn't have a problem with him opening my mail.
I respect and trust my wife too much to open her mail, and I can not imagine an instance where she would open mine.
Yes. I open most of the mail anyhow and he opens it as well. So i dont see the problem.
OF COURSE YOU DID GOOD! YOU HAVE THE RIGHT! REALLY YOU CAN'T TRUST NOBODY EVEN YOUR OWN B**T
No. It's obviously his business, and I would trust my husband enough to not snoop through his things.
If you have to open it, it means there is a problem.
yes, we open each others mail all the time. It's no biggy to us.
Yes, either should open any post.
Wow you have a green monster on your shoulder. You do not trust your husband. Better start thinking about counseling.
Been married for 27 yrs and NO I would not open something addressed to him only. Just as I would want the same respect with my mail.
My husband goes mad when i open his mail
Um yes, I would have done the exact same thing! xox
Yes, But because we open each others letters we have nothing to hide.
yea i would have..and i wouldnt have felt bad..he opens mine..
Hell yeah i would have opened it. lol
nope, i would have waited for him to open it and share it with me..
What is a really creative way of telling my husband that he is going to be a dad?
He is 46 y/o, and this will be his first child, he is the VP of his company, and I am about 4.5 weeks along.What do you suggest for telling him?What is a really creative way of telling my husband that he is going to be a dad?
Give him a bj and then tell him that he's gonna be a daddy.What is a really creative way of telling my husband that he is going to be a dad?
Mail the test (wrapped up in a plastic baggy of course but still visible) in a brown envelope to his office --special delivery.
Or invite him out for an evening out...wrap the test in a gift box and give to him at dinner.
Go to your fave store in the mall and start browsing the baby section.
Buy a really cute card and take him to a nice dinner. Give him the card after dinner as dessert.
Look at him seriously and ask ';do you want a boy or a girl, you have a 50% chance of getting your wish.';
Reading between the lines, please forgive me if I am completely wrong, but it sounds as though you aren't sure if he is going to be pleased or not? If he wants a child, any way you tell him will be wonderful but if you are unsure of how he will take it, just be straight, with your happiest face on, and tell him that you are both going to have a baby. Good luck and congratulations. I have three children and believe me, it is the best thing that has ever happened to me.
First of all congratulations!!
i guess,he would be happy anyways but what you can do is,get his room decorated with baby pic's,cards thats say hes gonna be a dad soon and lots of ballons and decorative stuff that involves babies.. something to give him the idea!!
I secretly took two pregnancy tests (both came up negative) and then I went for a blood test (it was positive). Right when I left the hospital from finding out that I was pregnant, I went to the store and bought a cute card and a few small baby things: a bottle, hat, little socks, etc. I was going to wait until he came home for lunch to give it to him, but I couldn't wait that long. I went to his work, went in and told his boss (one of our good friends). His boss went and told him that he really needed to step outside because I had to talk to him. He asked his boss what was going on and he told my husband that it was something about his new truck. LOL He got out there and asked what was going on and I gave him the ';present';. He was so shocked because he didn't expect me to be pregnant and he thought that it was about his new truck! He actually started crying because he was so excited! We stood there talking to each other and then he went back in. His boss told him to take the rest of the day off. It was great!
I'm so sorry. i was so excitied when i found out I was pg that all my ideas of how to tell went out the window and I just blurted it out when my husband got home. I'm not going to be much help here.
have fun!
Sounds like you probably have some money- why don't you redecorate a room into a nursery and surprise him that way!
Romantic candle light dinner
Good Q? Now i dont have to ask that and use my points. Thanx
Make a family tree with the name/s of your future baby included with it's birth year '06? '07?. Have it framed and on the wall. See how long till he notices!
Go out to dinner, or just prepare a nice dinner at home, when you two are sitting there, tell him you have a present for him. Purchase a bib or a onsie that says #1 dad, or I love my dady, something like that, put it in a box, wrap it up and give it to him over dinner. When he opens it, he'll be in shock and very happy! Good Luck and CONGRATS!!!!!!!!!!!! May you be blessed with a very healthy baby. GOD BLESS!
ask his secretary to do u a favor. try to drop by his office and ask his sec to page him saying ';mr. vp soon-to-be-daddy, your wife soon-to-be-mommy is here'; how sweet iyyyyyy!!!!
Take him out on a nice date. Make sure it leads to something. Tell him he just ';christened'; his first child when you're done.
Many people keep a pregnancy on the down low for the first trimester...
I really like the idea of a gift. What about a #1 Dad Charm, or something for his desk but give it too him at a nice romantic dinner...If you got him something to put on his desk he could think about it everyday as a reminder of the happiness to come for you both...Congratulations...I am trying for my first right now....The days are dragging til my next period....Good luck to you and best wishes....Also try www.redenvelope.com for some really cool personal gifts. They have some really nice stuff for a DAD!
give him 2 flowers one blue and one pink and have them send to his work he will get a kick out of it .
thats what i did with my husband and he loveed it
Give him a bj and then tell him that he's gonna be a daddy.What is a really creative way of telling my husband that he is going to be a dad?
Mail the test (wrapped up in a plastic baggy of course but still visible) in a brown envelope to his office --special delivery.
Or invite him out for an evening out...wrap the test in a gift box and give to him at dinner.
Go to your fave store in the mall and start browsing the baby section.
Buy a really cute card and take him to a nice dinner. Give him the card after dinner as dessert.
Look at him seriously and ask ';do you want a boy or a girl, you have a 50% chance of getting your wish.';
Reading between the lines, please forgive me if I am completely wrong, but it sounds as though you aren't sure if he is going to be pleased or not? If he wants a child, any way you tell him will be wonderful but if you are unsure of how he will take it, just be straight, with your happiest face on, and tell him that you are both going to have a baby. Good luck and congratulations. I have three children and believe me, it is the best thing that has ever happened to me.
First of all congratulations!!
i guess,he would be happy anyways but what you can do is,get his room decorated with baby pic's,cards thats say hes gonna be a dad soon and lots of ballons and decorative stuff that involves babies.. something to give him the idea!!
I secretly took two pregnancy tests (both came up negative) and then I went for a blood test (it was positive). Right when I left the hospital from finding out that I was pregnant, I went to the store and bought a cute card and a few small baby things: a bottle, hat, little socks, etc. I was going to wait until he came home for lunch to give it to him, but I couldn't wait that long. I went to his work, went in and told his boss (one of our good friends). His boss went and told him that he really needed to step outside because I had to talk to him. He asked his boss what was going on and he told my husband that it was something about his new truck. LOL He got out there and asked what was going on and I gave him the ';present';. He was so shocked because he didn't expect me to be pregnant and he thought that it was about his new truck! He actually started crying because he was so excited! We stood there talking to each other and then he went back in. His boss told him to take the rest of the day off. It was great!
I'm so sorry. i was so excitied when i found out I was pg that all my ideas of how to tell went out the window and I just blurted it out when my husband got home. I'm not going to be much help here.
have fun!
Sounds like you probably have some money- why don't you redecorate a room into a nursery and surprise him that way!
Romantic candle light dinner
Good Q? Now i dont have to ask that and use my points. Thanx
Make a family tree with the name/s of your future baby included with it's birth year '06? '07?. Have it framed and on the wall. See how long till he notices!
Go out to dinner, or just prepare a nice dinner at home, when you two are sitting there, tell him you have a present for him. Purchase a bib or a onsie that says #1 dad, or I love my dady, something like that, put it in a box, wrap it up and give it to him over dinner. When he opens it, he'll be in shock and very happy! Good Luck and CONGRATS!!!!!!!!!!!! May you be blessed with a very healthy baby. GOD BLESS!
ask his secretary to do u a favor. try to drop by his office and ask his sec to page him saying ';mr. vp soon-to-be-daddy, your wife soon-to-be-mommy is here'; how sweet iyyyyyy!!!!
Take him out on a nice date. Make sure it leads to something. Tell him he just ';christened'; his first child when you're done.
Many people keep a pregnancy on the down low for the first trimester...
I really like the idea of a gift. What about a #1 Dad Charm, or something for his desk but give it too him at a nice romantic dinner...If you got him something to put on his desk he could think about it everyday as a reminder of the happiness to come for you both...Congratulations...I am trying for my first right now....The days are dragging til my next period....Good luck to you and best wishes....Also try www.redenvelope.com for some really cool personal gifts. They have some really nice stuff for a DAD!
give him 2 flowers one blue and one pink and have them send to his work he will get a kick out of it .
thats what i did with my husband and he loveed it
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