What is the best thing to say to your husband when he is trying to change his ways?

My husband is trying to change his ways after I found out he was doing something he shouldn't have been doing. He has asked for my forgiveness (which I did) and has made some good improvement. However, I have a hard time stopping myself from reminding him of his mistake. What can I say or do to him to let him know I still love him?What is the best thing to say to your husband when he is trying to change his ways?
kneel before him





unzip his jeans





say, 'I love you' and then drive him wild with your mouth.What is the best thing to say to your husband when he is trying to change his ways?
TELL him. Just say it out of the blue once in a while. just say that you love him. doesn't have to be a big deal, just something you drop in at some point if he does something sweet or makes you laugh. Give him a spontaneous kiss occasionally. remember to apologise if YOU do something wrong - to help remind both of you that you are BOTH human and capable of making mistakes (even though his was obviously a more serious offence). try not to dwell on things - by focusing on how to ';let him know'; etc you may be creating more work and toil for yourself that is necessary. Bring out the photo albums one evening and have a giggle together on a fun trip down memory lane, reminding both of yourselves why you are together and all the good things that have happened.





The age-old question is ';how can one forgive if they can't forget?'; but the fact is you must try to and, although it's not clear what you have had to forgive, i applaud both him for asking for forgiveness and making changes and YOU, not only for agreeing to forgive him, but also appreciating how much he's trying. I sincerely wish both of you the best of luck!!!
Forgive:


1: to give up resentment of or claim to requital for %26lt;forgive an insult%26gt;


2: to cease to feel resentment against (an offender) : pardon %26lt;forgive one's enemies%26gt;





If you truly forgive him, you cannot throw it in his face any longer. You do not have to FORGET what he has done, and you can be watchful of his actions, but it isn't a fair fight to say you've forgiven him and then bring it up again and again.





You must either tell him that you are TRYING to find a way in your heart to forgive him, or tell him that you are willing to work things out. Another choice is to actually forgive him and never bring it up again.


Or you can tell him that you cannot get past his mistakes enough to make this work.





Forgiving is actually the hardest of those choices. I wish you peace.
Maybe you need to talk with someone at length to get it all out. Maybe it could/should be your husband, maybe a close friend, maybe a counselor of some sort. You may have forgiven him, but something is stuck and sounds like you can't move on yet.


Try doing some of the same old things you did before to let him know that you still love him.


Good luck.
If you forgave him then you should not keep reminding him of what he has done, this is just telling him that you did not really forgive him. You can best tell him that you love him by not mentioning this again and just move on. I know that it will be hard but until you let it go he will never know how much that you love him.


Good Luck
If you truly meant what you said about forgiving him, then let it go. (or at least try harder) You did not state what he did and really its none of our business. However since we dont know the severity of the mistake.. we can only assume. Its its really bad.. then just try harder to get on with your lives together.. if its trivial. .then remember we are all human and we all make mistakes.
Tell him that you know that he is making the effort to change and that you really appreciate that. Instead of always pointing out the bad, find a few good things to point out. Surprising how their attitude can change if we give them positive reinforcement.


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thank you when he is doing something nice and tell him you love it when he? or i am sorry but that makes me feel ? when you do ?..


my husband cheated on me it hurt so bad i everyday still cry but he tries to make me happy, i just do what i told you..
That's it. Tell him you love him and you believe in him, that you know he is working so hard toward changing and you are proud of him.
How about shut the hell up and let the poor man look at naked boobies once in a while?!!?!?!?





Your nagging will drive him away, which probably drove him to his ';mistake'; before.






Just don't beat him into the ground over it. There's nothing worse than giving your all %26amp; still getting put down. Most of us are motivated by recognition for our efforts %26amp; a little compliment here %26amp; there to keep us going.
Do not remind him of his mistake. That alone will show him how much you love him. Also, when you are seeing that he's making an effort then acknowledge that. Praise him.
Tell him how much you appreciate his efforts. 'Reward' him and you should be rewarded back. Sounds like it may be time for some 'role playing'.
A leopard never changes its spots.
Give him biscuit.