My husband ignores me a lot and finds the computer more interesting. What to do?

He reads about cameras and triathlons constantly. I am not kidding he is not looking up porn so don't even go there. I am tired of playing second fiddle to a computer. I mean, I think I am better looking than it and well I suppose I don't hold a candle to the personality of it but let's get real here. I'm competing against a computer and it's winning. What does this say about me and about our relationship. My husband ignores me a lot and finds the computer more interesting. What to do?
some people don't know a good thing when they see it.





let him know how you feel......





give him the old one two..... either you turn the computer off.... and turn me on........... or you can take your computer and leave.My husband ignores me a lot and finds the computer more interesting. What to do?
I think you have violated the terms of yahoo due to asking more than one questions. What to do? and ';what does it say about me and our relationship? Just because you refuse to use grammer does not mean you get away with these outlandish type errors in judgement.





I wonder if you would put a manual on the table, under his new issue of ';BSA'; (Bicycle wheels of America) with the actual word MANUAL on it, in big black bold print... he would pick it up and read it. Then have the pages inside be technical data about you. Maybe how many bones you have in your feet, and the average amount of hair growth in your ears on Saturdays etc. You could slip in a few pictures the book and after he reads it a few times he would be more informed, and thus more intersted in you? You could throw in some data on how to be more involved and understanding etc...



I dated a guy for 3 years who would ignore me for World Of Warcraft. I would drive 30 minutes to his house to visit him to only sit upstairs watching TV on my own and falling asleep on my own. I once tried to pull his pants down and tried to arouse him. He pushed me away. I put up with it for a few years. I ended up resenting him. I resent myself more for putting up with being second to his computer. Maybe you and your husband should seek counseling. Internet addiction is serious and most people are in denial.
Go out to the garage, get a hammer, come back in and take it out on the computer...That will fix him.





Put on your best nighty- when you think that he is going to go in and get on the computer- jump in front of it, sit in front of it and spread em.





Cut off his internet access or fry the computer hard drive..





LOL tell him that he has to make a decision- the computer or you or treat him like a child and limit his time on the device.





good luck
Computers suck; and so do video games. Its an addiction; should try walking by him naked next time and see what he does :P.





my guy is either on the computer; or playing games. Both ways i can't talk to him, but its the same when he's reading a book. A hobby is what he needs.. wait you need to find something that both of you can like.
When we first got the COMPUTER and internet my husband was on it all the time and i finally said something about being a COMPUTER widow and enough was enough, to limit his time on the dumb thing or else i would stop paying the bill for it.
You might make the home page a little soft porn site, and use this to move the conversation to a more organic, and pleasurable exercise...





If this doesn't work have you considered that you are a front for his secret gay life? Does he read ';men's health';?





cheers,





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thanks
Try joining him in his hobby.. Go to an actual camera shop and ask him questions.. Take it a step further and do alittle PHOTOGRAPHY..





HINT HINT.. Sister you have the goods.. USE IT
while he is deep in the computer tell him you are of to an orgy with a freind...if he doesnt respond then you are a`free woman!!!!1
How about throwing the stupid thing out? Would that work? Well it had better.
it says he's bored and he's searching for a new hobby join him or be is cheerleader then you will have time with him while he is doing something new and interesting . which in turn will make your relationship new and interesting and then your rival, the computer, will be no more...hi five!





don't give an ultimatum that is selffish and you can't fight selfishness with selfishness..( because that is what is is doing right now) don't treat him like a child because you will bruise his self esteem and a wife is her husbands main source of self worth and confidence..( yes girl he needs you more than you think) also tantrums and yelling and fighting about it will make the problem bigger than it really needs to be . Oh I forgot tell him how you feel about it.. that always works good ol' honesty..
What does this say about you? It says that you started disrespecting him. You probably didn't even realize when and how. You two need to talk.