So we have been married almost 9 years, and lately i don't feel that passion or intensity that we felt before. I know that things change in a marriage and we go through stages. But i want to ignite the fire of passion. We have 2 boys so it's not as passionate and we both work very hard. But we do have the weekends. Any and all advice will be appreciated, please don't ge rude.How do i fall back in LOVE with my husband?
Well, firstly, understand that you don't automatically ';fall'; back in love.
This will be work on both parts.
A few helpful solutions:
1. Hire family, friends, or babysitter and the both of you go out on a date. Do NOT talk about the kids on that date. Very important.
2. Make sure you do physical activities that you BOTH enjoy!
3. When the kids are in bed, both of you spend time either doing interactive activities, absolutely nothing but sitting together, or both.
4. And lastly, do NOT let the ';boys'; come before you husband. And vice versa, they should not come before you as a wife.
Your marriage comes before everything, and kudos for reaching out for solutions to make that happen!
Making it work!How do i fall back in LOVE with my husband?
Hi,
Well apart from what you can do your husband will have to do some things to make you fall in love with him again also. You can introduce some spontaneity %26amp; fire back into your marriage such as: wear lovely perfume for him while at home, nice make up, nail polish, sexy lingerie - spice things up a bit for him, have a nice bath together, prepare a nice dinner for him one of his favourites, massage each other. Go away for the weekend. Wear sexy clothes %26amp; heels while at home with him. Go on picnics, walks, send romantic %26amp; erotic messages to him during the day while at work %26amp; write notes for him just to let him know you're thinking of him %26amp; can't wait to see him that night. There's a few ideas.
Good luck.
Good for you for realizing the excitement can be re-created!!
Check out the work of Dr. David Schnarch, including his book ';Secrets of a Passionate Marriage'; Good information from someone who's made a study of the subject.
Another one is John Gottman's ';Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work'; This book is based on excellent research, and will help you and your husband ensure your marriage is on a solid footing so there's room for passion and intensity.
What you have to do is set aside some time for just you and your husband. Try and make arrangements for your boys to stay with a friend or grandparents for night. Plan ahead what you are going to do: Wear something sexy, cook a nice meal, soft lights, music and perhaps a massage. And remember, talk and listen to each other.
Have fun
hi zeeee--in my opion n my opion only--u cant fall back in love in some instances--u can make out have sex n enjoy it but that is not falling back in love--once u fall out u fall out peroid--i love haveing sex with an x but i dont think i could ever fall back in love with her--ok
if u want 2try n make it more passionate dinner--wine--lake--no boys--relax--teasing (ie short skirt/clevege)
It's a choice, just like being happy is a choice. Go out of your way to create that feeling for yourself again, as only you can do. And please talk to him about it.
Get someone to take the kids.
Make plans to be just the 2 of you and make the night a passionate one.
Get creative... and get the spark back.
first ya'll go into the woods and watch them little critters play'in around shor enuff when you a 'hearin that ole owl hoot caint be long afor nature is taki'n its course
you cant fall back in love with someone, the question is are you still in love? can you answer that.
juss start going on dates.
send the kids to a babysitter..or family member.
have fun like you guys use to..make out..idk..haha
ohh..one more thing..do you guys even talk.?
maby dats da problem..
KY jelly..always works!
Friday, April 30, 2010
I want to start a new tradition with my husband for Christmas. Any good ideas?
My husband and I have been dating for 6 years but only married for a month and a half. This Christmas is our first, and I'd love to start a new tradition, or perhaps even adopt an old tradition that I don't know about. Suggestions?I want to start a new tradition with my husband for Christmas. Any good ideas?
I'm not sure how things go in your house, who does the decorating and what-not, but the two of you should maybe pick a movie you both love and watch it on Christmas Eve. I know my family watches the ';A Christmas Story'; marathon every year on Christmas. Also, you could pick a night when you are both off work and decorate the tree together. I'm not sure where you live, but you could do an activity such as Caroling. But, remember, this is your Christmas, not ours, and sometimes traditions start when you dont even know they have been started!I want to start a new tradition with my husband for Christmas. Any good ideas?
Pick out a Christmas ornament together every year for your tree. This year get a ';First Christmas Together'; ornament. Make sure every ornament has the year on it.
If your a Christian you can have a ';Happy Birthday Jesus'; party with a birthday cake.
my husband and i got married last year on new year's eve, so this is our first christmas as a married couple as well. we are starting our own traditions this year, too.
each of us will write the other a letter and put it in his/her stocking on christmas eve to be read on christmas morning.
we will also each pick out one ornament every year that reminds us of the other, and give it as a gift.
we are considering finding a holiday meal to use as ';our'; traditional meal, as well. probably breakfast, since we do my parent's house on eve and his parents' on day.
We do stockings and the stuffers have been kinda traditional in the fact that he always gets socks, aftershave, a bathroom book, magazine subscription - that kinda thing. Kinda boring but we look forward to it every year.
We never had kids and felt that there was WAYYY too much early morning Hype. So wed wait until 12:01 (In keeping with the mandates of our parents to NOT open the presents till Christmas) open presents.. Then wed flip a coin. Whoever lost had to get up earlier than the other and make breakfast.
we always buy an ornament and put the year on it then every when we decorate the tree it is interesting to see how our taste has changed over the years. Now I buy ornaments for my kids. Ones that they choose. so they'll have them when they have a tree of their own.
A Christmas ornament every year, with the year on the ornament.
Stockings that are personalized.
Set up a holiday village and choose a new piece to add to the village each year.
We've done the above 3 not since we were married but ever since our 1st child's 1st christmas. I wish we started these traditions the 1st year we got married...oh well...at least we started for our baby's 1st christmas.
me and my wife are going to cook a dinner together you could make that your tradition maiking something new together each year or even making the same thing.
I'm not sure how things go in your house, who does the decorating and what-not, but the two of you should maybe pick a movie you both love and watch it on Christmas Eve. I know my family watches the ';A Christmas Story'; marathon every year on Christmas. Also, you could pick a night when you are both off work and decorate the tree together. I'm not sure where you live, but you could do an activity such as Caroling. But, remember, this is your Christmas, not ours, and sometimes traditions start when you dont even know they have been started!I want to start a new tradition with my husband for Christmas. Any good ideas?
Pick out a Christmas ornament together every year for your tree. This year get a ';First Christmas Together'; ornament. Make sure every ornament has the year on it.
If your a Christian you can have a ';Happy Birthday Jesus'; party with a birthday cake.
my husband and i got married last year on new year's eve, so this is our first christmas as a married couple as well. we are starting our own traditions this year, too.
each of us will write the other a letter and put it in his/her stocking on christmas eve to be read on christmas morning.
we will also each pick out one ornament every year that reminds us of the other, and give it as a gift.
we are considering finding a holiday meal to use as ';our'; traditional meal, as well. probably breakfast, since we do my parent's house on eve and his parents' on day.
We do stockings and the stuffers have been kinda traditional in the fact that he always gets socks, aftershave, a bathroom book, magazine subscription - that kinda thing. Kinda boring but we look forward to it every year.
We never had kids and felt that there was WAYYY too much early morning Hype. So wed wait until 12:01 (In keeping with the mandates of our parents to NOT open the presents till Christmas) open presents.. Then wed flip a coin. Whoever lost had to get up earlier than the other and make breakfast.
we always buy an ornament and put the year on it then every when we decorate the tree it is interesting to see how our taste has changed over the years. Now I buy ornaments for my kids. Ones that they choose. so they'll have them when they have a tree of their own.
A Christmas ornament every year, with the year on the ornament.
Stockings that are personalized.
Set up a holiday village and choose a new piece to add to the village each year.
We've done the above 3 not since we were married but ever since our 1st child's 1st christmas. I wish we started these traditions the 1st year we got married...oh well...at least we started for our baby's 1st christmas.
me and my wife are going to cook a dinner together you could make that your tradition maiking something new together each year or even making the same thing.
Was the Acorn worker that said she killed her husband lying?
in the fourth video?
She seemed to give a fairly detailed account of planning and executing his supposed murder. Has she been questioned by police?Was the Acorn worker that said she killed her husband lying?
why wasn't the tape turned over to the police as soon as they left?
she said she lied because she knew they were lying and she just wanted to play along. the police have investigated and her husband is alive.Was the Acorn worker that said she killed her husband lying?
I'm not sure. However, if she did, she likely already did the time.
I'm sure she will be questioned, but I saw the tape....it appeared to me that she was clearly talking out of her a$$. She repeatedly threatened numerous other people's lives....so, I think she has a screw loose.....and I think her story is a lie to make her sound tough.
liberals dont care...they think men are evil,and deserve every bit of murder she gave her husband...of course,she may have just been bragging ,one lib to another supposed lib,about being a tough woman...liberals love to talk tough,but they aint....
to the above libs..even if he is alive,what kind of degenerate low-life tells someone else about her fantasy of murdering her husband?
Yes....the cops investigated it...her husband is alive and well.
It's all slander! Democrats don't lie!
Her ex-husband is alive and well. They are so use to lying, they believe any story they tell.lips eye liner
She seemed to give a fairly detailed account of planning and executing his supposed murder. Has she been questioned by police?Was the Acorn worker that said she killed her husband lying?
why wasn't the tape turned over to the police as soon as they left?
she said she lied because she knew they were lying and she just wanted to play along. the police have investigated and her husband is alive.Was the Acorn worker that said she killed her husband lying?
I'm not sure. However, if she did, she likely already did the time.
I'm sure she will be questioned, but I saw the tape....it appeared to me that she was clearly talking out of her a$$. She repeatedly threatened numerous other people's lives....so, I think she has a screw loose.....and I think her story is a lie to make her sound tough.
liberals dont care...they think men are evil,and deserve every bit of murder she gave her husband...of course,she may have just been bragging ,one lib to another supposed lib,about being a tough woman...liberals love to talk tough,but they aint....
to the above libs..even if he is alive,what kind of degenerate low-life tells someone else about her fantasy of murdering her husband?
Yes....the cops investigated it...her husband is alive and well.
It's all slander! Democrats don't lie!
Her ex-husband is alive and well. They are so use to lying, they believe any story they tell.
Would my husband look for other women coz I am not a sexual enthusiast?
I am not really into sex,our marriage was centered into a family,children,daily routine,%26amp; career.Sexual life is being set aside,my husband is very respectfull if i deny,it happened only once a month sometimes none.Would my husband look for other women coz I am not a sexual enthusiast?
Yes. Sexual intimacy is important for a man, especially a younger man. If you are not using it, then it should be OK for someone else to.Would my husband look for other women coz I am not a sexual enthusiast?
Well if he understands then he understands and respects your choice, i highely doubt he would cheat on you, if you have a family!
Worry about this if and when it happens!
Being sexually satisfied at home does not mean someone (male or female) will not find their satisfaction away from home. It's the personal ethics and morals that determine this.
You should have mentioned that you hated sex before the marraige .
Yes.
sorry to say this but yes he would it part of man hood
Yes. Sexual intimacy is important for a man, especially a younger man. If you are not using it, then it should be OK for someone else to.Would my husband look for other women coz I am not a sexual enthusiast?
Well if he understands then he understands and respects your choice, i highely doubt he would cheat on you, if you have a family!
Worry about this if and when it happens!
Being sexually satisfied at home does not mean someone (male or female) will not find their satisfaction away from home. It's the personal ethics and morals that determine this.
You should have mentioned that you hated sex before the marraige .
Yes.
sorry to say this but yes he would it part of man hood
Live in VA. What do I do if my husband wont sign separation greement my lawyer made. He is procrastinating. ?
Have 14 yr old daughter. I have moved out already, after waiting 6 months for him to.We have agreed to share legal and physical custody.Can I file anyway?Live in VA. What do I do if my husband wont sign separation greement my lawyer made. He is procrastinating. ?
yea.. i live n va too.. u dont need a seperation agreement to get divorced,, just proof that you have been seperarted for a time I think. Sure.. flle.. if he does not show,, go for full custody..
yea.. i live n va too.. u dont need a seperation agreement to get divorced,, just proof that you have been seperarted for a time I think. Sure.. flle.. if he does not show,, go for full custody..
Can a husband and wife be called a family?
My mom is curious of how a husband and wife would be represented. I told her as a couple, but she disagrees with my dad and I. I know that there are various types of families, but I only want to know one thing. Wouldn't a family (related) be a husband and wife with at least one kid (typically), and a couple would be somebody like boyfriend,girlfriend/husband,wife?Can a husband and wife be called a family?
Yes, a husband %26amp; wife are a family, and they can also be referred to as a couple. They can add to their family by having or adopting children, but the husband %26amp; wife are the foundation of the family.Can a husband and wife be called a family?
Technically on tax forms and in the governments eyes, you are a family regardless of whether you have children once you are married. A couple is the idea of being involved with one another in a relationship that is committed and exclusive, but where each of you maintains a certain amount of independence. Once you get married that all changes. You are working together as a unit. Two people making up something greater than themselves. There are vows and a union to be upheld. You are legally attached to one another plus on whatever other levels you may consider to be involved. You have announced to the world with witnesses and paperwork that you two are two parts to one entity. That is what makes you a family. Pieces of a whole. A couple is just two independent entities that fit alongside one another.
For example ... when buying a case of soda you can pick up a six-pack. You could buy a couple of cans. Heck there are a couple of cans in a six-pack. But what makes the soda a six pack is that it's got all the pieces AND that little bit of plastic. Buying six independent cans would not give you that plastic that holds it all together. So you have six ... but it's six ones .... hope that makes sense.
I think it's a semantic difference, which means I see your point but I view it somewhat differently. I think a husband and wife are indeed a family based on the commitment they've obviously made and the vows that they've taken. Whether or not they have children is irrelevant. Some couples either cannot have children or do not want them (for whatever reason). They are not considered somehow less valid family units because of their decision or circumstance. Husbands and wives are the nuclei of families from which all other possible permutations evolve. Granted, this is only my opinion. Very interesting question, by the way.
I agree that a husband and wife is a couple. If you add a kid or a live in parent then it becomes a family. A mom and kid make a family or a dad and kid can be a family, but just the husband and wife--that's a couple.
Husband and wife is considered a couple.
Boyfriend and girlfriend is also considered a couple.
But when the husband and wife make love and get a child/children its considered a family since now there united!
You are exactly right a husband and wife/ girlfriend and boyfriend would be called a couple and the husband and wife and child would be called a family.
It depends on the context. Like on a formal invitation or a sign or something, you would say ';Mr. and Mrs. Smith,'; but a more informal noting you could say ';The Smith Family.'; Just trust your own judgment.
i agree with you, i think a family is at least a wife, husband, or gf and bf, with at least one child,
like you said
hasband %26amp;wife called like couples.When having they first child it called small family.Hasband%26amp;wife with two childrens called a family. Hope i helped
';Family'; and ';couple'; are not mutually exclusive. A couple can be a family: a family of two.
Well you and your dad are kind of right by in some cases a mom and a dad can be called a family.
Well first you this is a opinion question so i think yes but other people may say no so you cant really tell your both wrong because there is no right question.
No a Husband and wife are a family, children are not necessary for the definition.
Usually called couple or husband and wife, not family.
haha. a husband and wife can be considered a family... I know lots of ppl who are a family but don't have kids... they have pets :)
No, once they are married they are a family with or without a child. At least that is what my insurance company says.
yes.
A couple is husband/wife , boyfriend/girlfriend.
When they have a child they are a family.
They are still Family...cause you now have a mother in law and father in law...so I would think that would make you a part of a family even with out kids!
My thought is that a couple is a family. And if children come about the family grows.
A couple is a family
i would call that a family!!!!!!
good luck %26lt;3
yes a family has to have a kid
Yes, a husband %26amp; wife are a family, and they can also be referred to as a couple. They can add to their family by having or adopting children, but the husband %26amp; wife are the foundation of the family.Can a husband and wife be called a family?
Technically on tax forms and in the governments eyes, you are a family regardless of whether you have children once you are married. A couple is the idea of being involved with one another in a relationship that is committed and exclusive, but where each of you maintains a certain amount of independence. Once you get married that all changes. You are working together as a unit. Two people making up something greater than themselves. There are vows and a union to be upheld. You are legally attached to one another plus on whatever other levels you may consider to be involved. You have announced to the world with witnesses and paperwork that you two are two parts to one entity. That is what makes you a family. Pieces of a whole. A couple is just two independent entities that fit alongside one another.
For example ... when buying a case of soda you can pick up a six-pack. You could buy a couple of cans. Heck there are a couple of cans in a six-pack. But what makes the soda a six pack is that it's got all the pieces AND that little bit of plastic. Buying six independent cans would not give you that plastic that holds it all together. So you have six ... but it's six ones .... hope that makes sense.
I think it's a semantic difference, which means I see your point but I view it somewhat differently. I think a husband and wife are indeed a family based on the commitment they've obviously made and the vows that they've taken. Whether or not they have children is irrelevant. Some couples either cannot have children or do not want them (for whatever reason). They are not considered somehow less valid family units because of their decision or circumstance. Husbands and wives are the nuclei of families from which all other possible permutations evolve. Granted, this is only my opinion. Very interesting question, by the way.
I agree that a husband and wife is a couple. If you add a kid or a live in parent then it becomes a family. A mom and kid make a family or a dad and kid can be a family, but just the husband and wife--that's a couple.
Husband and wife is considered a couple.
Boyfriend and girlfriend is also considered a couple.
But when the husband and wife make love and get a child/children its considered a family since now there united!
You are exactly right a husband and wife/ girlfriend and boyfriend would be called a couple and the husband and wife and child would be called a family.
It depends on the context. Like on a formal invitation or a sign or something, you would say ';Mr. and Mrs. Smith,'; but a more informal noting you could say ';The Smith Family.'; Just trust your own judgment.
i agree with you, i think a family is at least a wife, husband, or gf and bf, with at least one child,
like you said
hasband %26amp;wife called like couples.When having they first child it called small family.Hasband%26amp;wife with two childrens called a family. Hope i helped
';Family'; and ';couple'; are not mutually exclusive. A couple can be a family: a family of two.
Well you and your dad are kind of right by in some cases a mom and a dad can be called a family.
Well first you this is a opinion question so i think yes but other people may say no so you cant really tell your both wrong because there is no right question.
No a Husband and wife are a family, children are not necessary for the definition.
Usually called couple or husband and wife, not family.
haha. a husband and wife can be considered a family... I know lots of ppl who are a family but don't have kids... they have pets :)
No, once they are married they are a family with or without a child. At least that is what my insurance company says.
yes.
A couple is husband/wife , boyfriend/girlfriend.
When they have a child they are a family.
They are still Family...cause you now have a mother in law and father in law...so I would think that would make you a part of a family even with out kids!
My thought is that a couple is a family. And if children come about the family grows.
A couple is a family
i would call that a family!!!!!!
good luck %26lt;3
yes a family has to have a kid
Will I still be able to work if my husband is deployed in the airforce?
And how will I be able to take care of my child when I'm working? Is there child care on the base?Will I still be able to work if my husband is deployed in the airforce?
Absolutely. There is a Child Development Center on every base I've ever been to. Some of the larger bases have more than one. There is also a Family Child Care program at every base I've ever been to, which takes the overflow from the CDC if it's full.
My hubby is deployed Air Force. I have 3 kids, work full time, go to school at night, and can't wait for him to get home! lol Nothing is impossible if you're willing to put forth the effort.Will I still be able to work if my husband is deployed in the airforce?
Yes, most bases have child care. If not, find child care off base. Thousands of military wives work, go to school, take care of the kids, home, bills, groceries, and pets and MORE daily. There is no reason for you not to work.
Finding childcare will not be an issue. However, depending on your career field, finding a job may be.
Absolutely. There is a Child Development Center on every base I've ever been to. Some of the larger bases have more than one. There is also a Family Child Care program at every base I've ever been to, which takes the overflow from the CDC if it's full.
My hubby is deployed Air Force. I have 3 kids, work full time, go to school at night, and can't wait for him to get home! lol Nothing is impossible if you're willing to put forth the effort.Will I still be able to work if my husband is deployed in the airforce?
Yes, most bases have child care. If not, find child care off base. Thousands of military wives work, go to school, take care of the kids, home, bills, groceries, and pets and MORE daily. There is no reason for you not to work.
Finding childcare will not be an issue. However, depending on your career field, finding a job may be.
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